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anonymous
writes:After my marriage failed i was in a bad place emotionally and ended up allowing an affair to start with someone 15yrs younger than me and only 15 himself. When ppl started finding out about it realisation hit me and it felt wrong and i knew i had been wrong to allow it to happen but everytime i tried to escape he told me he would report me to the police and so it continued. A few yrs down the line i had a child by him (wrong again i know!)I've always been his emotionally punchbag, crumpling my own strength with his stress. A few weeks ago i became a physical punchbag and cannot emotionally take anymore without completely going over the edge. I have no family (except my girls) and no friends, how will i ever be strong enough to get my girls and myself out of London to start a new life and get away from all of this stuff!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008): Just move far far away from him and start all over
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (13 April 2008):
It's great that you have decided not to teach your girls that this is normal. You can escape and get a better life.
The easiest way to get this scumbag out of your life is to report him to the police. Then while he is out, change the locks on the doors.
If you want to leave and get away, get onto google and type in victim support. There will be a helpline, or a walk in place near you.
Talk to them and they will be able to help you.
There are women's refuges, there is help from the council, there are places you can go with your kids to be safe.
Once you are away from him, you can work on getting yourself a new life. You can find a job that will pay the rent and move far far away to start a new life.
You could move up North, (it's far cheaper and nicer), to Scotland, to Wales, or to anywhere in the world.
The first and most important thing to do though is get safe.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, madflash  +, writes (13 April 2008):
 You could have stopped it if you had wanted to, despite his threats. Having a child by him shows that you were not so 'blackmailed' after all, were you? Otherwise, you certainly would not have allowed that to happen.So, the fact is that you weren't 'forced', except of course by your neediness and your desires. Stop acting like a child even though you've been 'doing' a child and accept the blame for your own actions. That will be the first healthy step toward your liberation, and your life will become yours once again, no matter where you go or where if you stay. You will become a real adult woman then, and I wouldn't be surprised at all if you naturally fall for a real adult man when that happens.Best wishes and good luck
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