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I gave her a precise date amd time to decide whether she wants to get back with me..am I being unreasonable?

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Question - (8 June 2007) 3 Answers - (Newest, 9 June 2007)
A male United States age 36-40, *k06 writes:

I posted a question earlier, and things have changed a bit, and I would like to hear some advice from you all. I will recap the roots of my problems.

I was sent an email saying my girlfriend was cheating on me. The email said I could find evidence in her myspace inbox in September. She left her inbox open when she left, so I went directly to September and found the evidence. It was rather incriminating. Feeling as though my world had been pulled out from under me, I confronted her. She said she didnt know what I was talking about. I thought this was her lying, so I just asked if she would tell me what it was about, since she said it wasnt cheating. She didnt have an answer.

She ran off to her family's home about 90 miles away. She said it was so that she could think things over. The whole time she ignored me. We met up when she came back, I apologized for looking, and she said it was okay and things were back to normal. The next day she texted me saying that she only said that because she felt guilty with me sitting right there.

We met up two days ago, and I thought we had made up again. Then she broke our plans for the weekend to go back to her family's, and hang out with friends. She is ignoring me again.

I sent her a long email saying that I loved her. I want her to be happy, and although I will wait a long time for her to sort things through, I will not wait forever. I told her that I decided not to attempt to contact her, although I would always answer her texts and calls. I told her that I would give her until 10:00 PM Wednesday the 13th of June to decide. At that time, I will contact her, and I expect an answer, or I will move on.

Am I being unreasonable?

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A male reader, rk06 United States +, writes (9 June 2007):

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rk06 agony auntThanks, I really appreciate it. I was raised as a gentlemen, so I had to make sure I wasn't being a jerk. I'll update you guys wednesday.

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A male reader, nologo Ukraine +, writes (9 June 2007):

nologo agony auntI am glad to hear back from you again.

We need to think about your girlfriend.

Looks like this relationship is not as much priority for her.

Family and friends are important for her, and they should be.

How about a personal relationship leading to Commitment, huh?

By her actions it does not seem that she is interested in it.

As to the due date I guess she will give you a tricky answer.

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A female reader, bubbloo24 Isle of Man +, writes (9 June 2007):

bubbloo24 agony auntI don't think so. This gives her a time to think it through. It's not like you gave her 30 minutes and I think that if you didn't give her a deadline then she would keep ignoring you and taking you back when she felt like it.

Just don't pressurise her anymore until you make that call.

I wish you all the best.

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