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writes:I found online "you tube" videos of sexy girls stripping, dancing around and what not in my husband's history on his computer. So I confronted him and at first he was like well I left my IPOD in the car and went on "You Tube" to listen to music and then saw the different links and just kept clicking them. But when I told him I noticed he went there more then just yesterday and like 20 different videos each day he just said he was so ashamed and embarrassed. Now I feel I can't trust him. I am pregnant with our second child and not feeling all that sexy myself.. so when I saw this it just kind of made me feel unsecure. Help advice is truely needed! How do I know he wont do this again? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2008): OMG! addicted?. this is not addicted. and its no big deal. as one person wrote, all men do it. its because its visual and its not a threat to you. let it go. judge him by how he treats you and how he treats your feelings, not by what he has looked at on Youtube.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2008): What a jerk :-(
I'm sorry for what is happening to you, but the crappiest part is, all men do it. :-( I recently found out the same & I am unable to move past it. I have help from my university counselors, but it just isn't the same. We have sex everyday, but I feel really different about him. Myself. I don't know, I'm really confused.
I'm sorry that I went on about myself. I hope you can move on with your life & hopefully everything turns out well with you & your family.
I hope he understands how much hurt he has caused you & the potential repercussions of his unfaithfulness.
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reader, blazee  +, writes (14 November 2008):
 to be honest you dont know. more and more every generation becomes rapped around porn as it becomes more accesible. I think you need to confront your husband and ask him what he feels he is not getting from you, what the videos on youtube are giving him that you are not. ITs something your going to have to work through but it is good you have found it now. He would have soon moved onto hardcore porn as he become more used to whatever he can find on youtube. It sounds like he may be addicted, i suggest you make your feelings known to him, and make him feel like he can be open with you. if you are aggresive there are always ways he can do it behind your back, such as deleting the history etc and being more careful, so let him feel that he can confide in you, and that you want to help him stop this.
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