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anonymous
writes:Hi, I'll first place a background about myself, I'm 21 years old, man, I have never engaged a realtionship because I'm way too shy. When people come to talk to me I am receptive enough not to be rude, but I'm very quiet in this too.My problem, besides the abnormal shyness, is that I can't stand being touched by a girl I feel attraction for. It's like something "down there" has it's own life, I'm not even thinking about it and get totally "ready", sometimes even when I'm talking with her over through AIM something unrelated, I feel this, and sometimes it's a full erection !Generally when a girl displays some affection it happens, and it's not like I'm thinking dirty, generally I'm just thinking how sweet she is. I'm much more concerned because it's more like emotional than sexual.It turns my shyness worse because I can't really get close to a girl I feel something for, or I'll blow everything by getting ready to fast!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your replies, i'm already working towars my shyss, it's hard work but overcoming.
i have a trauma related to it , because once a girl tryed to dance with me and you know what happened... when she pulled me near her , she noticed an that was very very VERY awkward.
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reader, Jendorset  +, writes (14 November 2008):
This sounds normal to me. Try not to worry about it, as long as the woman doesnt notice then it doesnt matter. If i was in a situation and a guy got an erection just because i touched him then i would be really flattered. Try not to worry, worrying makes a situation worse than it is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): Well normally if you;re standing up and you're fully clothed, (providing you're not wearing lycra!) we don't realise that you have one!
It could well be due to your low experience. I used to think about sex ALL THE TIME before I had my first boyfriend, but until I seriously considered doing it, even when I was in a relationship I still hardly ever thought about it.
However don't be shy, because you have nothing to lose! The only way is up (no pun intended!) Just talk to girls and get to know them and sooner or later someone will develop feelings for you =]
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