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writes:hi should i be worried , i stayed round my boyfriend house and was on his computer when i noticed a porn website that he vists should i say something to him , or keep quiet about it and why does he look at this when he has me as his girlfriend
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): Men want sex. A lot.
As a guy I can attest to this. We generally want sex far more often then the women in our lives do.
And as we don't seem to have the capacity for fantasy that women do when they self-love, we turn to pornography to pick up the slack.
So we toss-off because it keeps our sex drives at a managble level. Or would you really want to have sex every time a man does. I mean sometimes we just do it out of boredom.
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reader, Beingblack +, writes (22 December 2009):
 I am convinced that women do not fully understand why men watch porn.
I concede that porn is not necessary, but it exists because men are visual creatures, and they like to use visual mechanisms to get aroused and masturbate.
WHY???? All the women ask. Why, when he has got me?
But it isn't so simple. Women believe that watching porn means my man is dribbling and masturbating over the woman on the screen.
WRONG. SO wrong. That's the problem. Women believe that men lust over the actress on the screen. But that usually isn't the case. Most men watch what she is DOING.
Remember that men are simple, and easily aroused. But not all men get excited over blonde hair, big breasts and big red lips. Thats why so many different TYPES of porn are out there.
I don't have the time or space to list all the types. But I bet your boyfriend will only like one.
Women need to ask the question, because guys will only really watch the type that turns them on the most, and it's usually a pretty good indicator of what he would REALLY like to do in bed.
So theres Anal, Bukake, Cartoon, Dildo, Oral, Inter-racial, Shemale, Group, Gay, Fetish ..... you get the idea. Which one is YOUR man watching?
Imagine if the boot were on the other foot. The majority of women are sensual as opposed to visual, although an increasing number of women admit to watching porn. What do you think about, and what do you feel when YOU masturbate? How unfair would it be to ask you to stop getting aroused in your unique way?
Porn is something that exists on paper and on film, its something that you can see. A woman's imagination, and touch is wholly sensory.
Women may worry about a man seeing an actress on a screen, or in a magazine. But how can a man compete with a womans imagination? How do we know that women are not fantasising about Brad, Clooney or Denzel? We don't. So we don't ask, because as long as our women CAN masturbate to orgasm, it really doesn't matter.
You should only worry if things reach a point where he would RATHER watch porn than be with you. Then he has a real problem, and you need to sit and talk.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (22 December 2009):
 If it doesn't bother you that it's there, I wouldn't say anything. If it does though, don't tell him you were snooping you could just talk to him about how he feels about porn. If he doesn't want to stop watching it, you could ask if he'd want to watch with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009): Keep quiet. I'd say that about 99.9% of men enjoy porn. If it isn't hurting your relationship, keep it to yourself. Besides, you don't wanna have to tell him you were snooping through his internet history. If it becomes a problem or starts interfering w/ your relationship then speak up. Otherwise it's almost pointless.
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reader, collins27023 +, writes (22 December 2009):
 most guys like the idea of looking at girls.
every guy does it and it really isn't a big deal.
you should confront him about it and i'm sure there is a reasonable explanation.
this is a thing with guys, girls never give us time to explain
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (22 December 2009):
Why do you need McDonalds when you could go and buy a beautiful venison steak in red wine sauce?
Sometimes, a guy wants a crafty wank and he LOVES YOU so doesn't want to think of you while doing a cheap dirty thing.
Porn is like junk food. Dirty but sometimes you want it because it's simple and forgettable.
Good Luck!! xx
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