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writes:i recently had a relationship with a man who was married. i didn't even know he was married until a year ago. i broke up with him 6 mo. ago because i couldn't rationalize the years of lies...4 to be exact. he would stay with me 3-4 days at a time. my question: what kind of woman tolerates her husband being gone all those days?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): I was that wife, I had not a clue until he filed for a divorce and announced to be married 3 months later. She knew about me and that was so painful. But believe me the wife probably does not know. If he will cheat with you he will cheat on you !!!! Read Proverbs chapters 5-6. Im sure you will rethink some things. Be blessed if he is for you he would have been single when you meet him not married. Even if he leaves his wife like my ex he will still try everything in his power to contact me I choose to not allow myself to be second. I know God would not send nobodies husband to be yours. That is not of God that is of the flesh. Stop thinking someones husband is for you. If the tables were turned how would you feel if you ever had to edure the pain of the wife. Sometimes becareful of the pain you cause and is it worth hurting someone. Its not that the men are unhappy they just want to fill your ear to get what they want. After they marry you the thought will kill you because you wander will they leave you if they ever fell unhappy. Think about it. And yes I have been intimate will him after our divorce I just know I am to good of a woman not have left overs.
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reader, Variety  +, writes (6 January 2008):
 Well technically you didn't know he was with her either. Surely there were periods of time when you didn't see him because he was with her. I realise dating and marriage are different things but you were going out for years so some sort of commitment would usually be expected by then. I would empathise with her rather than being derogatory. Does she know she is married to a prat? It is his fault. No one elses. Hope this helps x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2008): I know someone who was with a guy for five years and never knew he was married or even had children. Get this... he even had a child with his wife (attended the birth etc etc) while he was with this girl. He would say he was away on work trips etc to both of them and they never got to find out for years. She found out one day by offering to clean the inside of his car and found, right underneath the seat, a childs toy.
What you need to ask yourself is what sort of MAN does this to women? When you have that concept clear in your mind you will not even need to ask the question about his wife.
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reader, Dawnie +, writes (5 January 2008):
 Men travel away with work. My husband does. I doubt she knew anything about you. Anyway as you have found out the hard way, he is a liar and a cheat. I appreciate you did not know he was married at first, but why did you not dump him when you found out? Years ago before i was married i went out with a fella who i later found was married, i had feelings for him but when i found out he was not single, i told him where to go and never regretted it as a couple of months later i met my husband who was free, single and a lot of fun.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (5 January 2008):
 My husband travels on business all the time. I have his schedules sent by his secretary, I have his blackberry #, his cell # and all the office and contact #'s of the location that he is visiting, no matter where in the world he is. But having all of that, he could probably still cheat if he wanted too, so he also has my trust and constant affection (if he is not being a poopy-head).
Perhaps your ex's wife wasn't concerned about him because she knew that he was a lying, cheating bastard and she had someone of her own? Or maybe he was SUCH a good liar that he had you both snowed? I don't think that any answer would really give you the satisfaction that you are looking for here, but direct your anger at HIM and feel SORRY for her. She got stuck with the booby-prize here, her cheating husband. You got lucky and got the heck out before you were stuck washing his smalls, so thank the good Lord that you are free to pursue your happiness with someone more honorable than that jerk. You deserve to be loved and respected by someone who shares the same values that you have. Hope 2008 finds it for you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2008): I doubt that his wife tolerated this, it's a fair bet that she knew nothing at all about you. She deserves to be told what kind of man she's married to.
He was leading a double life, I'd put money on it.
Phil
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (5 January 2008):
 swingers. people who trust their partners. amny people ahve to work far off and away from home. looks at long distance truck drivers.. they do it
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2008): a woman who doesn't realise what he is like, and who is really sensitive and don't understand what he is up too, and a woman who thinks the best and never the worst of her husband as in this case on cheating on her.A woman who doesn't understand the word marriage. Ok well he could of lied to his wife obviously saying he is going away for work/buisness, thats what most men say to their wifes.
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