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30-35,
anonymous
writes:hi i met this guy last year he is 21 years older than me, he doesn't have a wife kids or girlfriend. we started talking then it got a little more serious. but then it all got out and people started laughing and joking about it and made matters worse. he blamed it all on me saying i never told him my age and said i edited the texts to make them sound bad. so for 3 months the atmophere between us was tense and we never spoke. new year came and i thought it was a good time to make up, so i went up to him quickly put my arm round him and said happy new year and said sorry for everything. he crabbed me back and kissed me and said sorry too. ever since he keeps looking at me, talking about me to other people saying how good it is now we are speaking, and always being there were ever i go. yes i do fancy him a little but do you think he fancies me, or am i reading into this to much. or if he does fancy me do you think i should confront him and say something? because i just can't get him out my head!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2008): i think you should stay well back. hes too old for you and could treat you badly. He may have had a little too much to drink that night..just my opinion, but follow your heart
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (5 January 2008):
 So, it's possible that he could be 38 if you are 17. His friends could be giving him a lot of stick about having a mid-life crisis because he is going after such a young girl then, that's what guys do, give each other a lot of muck. As long as you can see the future and think about all of the different possible problems that you could run into, well - that's something that you will have to decide if it's all worth it or not. You sound like a thoughtful young woman. It's pretty clear he likes you, the rest is probably up to you to decide!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (5 January 2008):
 Yeah! He fancies you. Which man will not fancy a sweet young thing who is interested in them.
There is no need to confront him. Just be friends and enjoy his friendship.Just let the river flows to whatever it wants.
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (5 January 2008):
 My guess is that he is conflicted about the age difference. If you are 16-17 then you are underage and he could be in big trouble for having a relationship with you. A 21 year age difference when you are so young is a lot to deal with. He will be teased and it seems he's not comfortable with that.
I think he is attracted to you and seems to care about you. If I were you I would count him as a friend at least until you are 18. When you are of age and if he is still around you could approach him then about a relationship.
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