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writes:My boyfriend of 5 months has been acting strange he used to reply to my messages within an hour at the most but usually straight away but now he keeps coming up with stupid reasons like his phone needs charging I can charge my phone and still reply to messages so I don't see why he can't too and to top it all off I found him on a dating site my friend is on and she told me he is on there and shown me , how should I bring it up with him I'm not being messed about and to do one. Reply to this Question
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reader, lifesgreat +, writes (5 January 2015):
Dump him ... walk away ... that's it
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2015): If he has been going on this dating site in the time that you have been seeing him, just get rid before he does something or already has. Whats the point in staying around with a person like that. Your better of being alone for the time being, than wondering what hes up to all the time, you dont need that kind of headache.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (4 January 2015):
 Send him an email with a link to his dating profile. Wish him the best in his search, then block and delete him.
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reader, MSA  +, writes (4 January 2015):
 Having a profile on a dating website does not constitute as him cheating. You just need to ask him. See what his response is. A lot of times the thing that breaks a relationship is you go assuming things when it's not true. He hasn't done anything to lose your trust, right? So ask him and accept his answer.As for replying to messages. Yes, I know it can be frustrating when you are expecting and reply and don't get one. Give him a chance, take his word for it. One time, I was texting with my boyfriend just as I was getting off work. He told me to call him. It only took me a minute to get into my car and by that time, I called and no one answered. Of course I got mad! He didn't call me back until an hour later. Said he left the house to pick up food but forgot his phone. I said really?? You had the phone in your hand texting with me! He said yea, he put it down and just left it there. Totally forgot about it. So yes, forgetfulness is a trait. Give him the benefit of the doubt!
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (4 January 2015):
 You don't owe him any fancy explanation. Simply state your reason and go. Your relationship is still so young, you're lucky not to have found out after a year.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (4 January 2015):
You've been with him long enough that if you don't know how to bring this up to him you two are probably not meant to be. Which seems especially likely if he's cheating.
Just tell him you know he's on a dating website and you don't want to be with a cheater so you're leaving. Then leave.
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