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writes:Okay well, I'm in my final year of school and will be heading off to uni next year. Since I'm almost 18 and still a virgin (it's somewhat difficult to find other gay guys) I figured I might as well sign up to a few dating/hookup sites and see if anyone was interested in having fun. Well what do you know, I found one of the teachers at my school. Now this man has been a part of my fantasies pretty much since I hit puberty! He is unbelievably attractive! Problem is, I don't know what to do. Is it worth dropping him a message and seeing if things go from there, or is it more likely it'll just end in rejection and a forever awkward atmosphere between us. The smart idea would be to wait until I've left school to contact him (I likely wouldn't even need to mention the school; he hasn't taught me in 4 years), but I'm worried by that point he may be in a relationship. I'd rather be 100% to either do it or not do it than be 50/50 and regret it down the line when I missed my chance.Just so you know, I'm not looking for a relationship and neither is he(I'm assuming, based on the site and his profile).
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2011): I ended up just expressing my feelings in an anonymous message. No mention of who I am or the school or any such. Just needed to get it off my chest I guess. Obviously the last thing I want is to come between him and his career.
If he's still around during the summer I'll probably end up contacting him properly, otherwise I guess it's back to the search :P
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reader, rivi  +, writes (7 March 2011):
Do NOTHING till you have definitively left school.When you have left school, you could send him a message but I would suggest not mentioning you know him from school.If you don't wait till you have left school you may tempt him to do something that ends up with him in jail. Then how will you feel?Meanwhile either concentrate on your exams, find a bf your own age, or stick to jerking off. You know it makes sense!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2011): Strike up a conversation with him about his main interests if you get a chance. If you feel a connection, wait till you finish school, it's not going to be easy because it never is. Have fun!
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reader, jc2008 +, writes (6 March 2011):
heya,Well I'm gay and work in a school (not a teacher) and noticed a student had profile on a gay dating website so I didn't bother putting a picture or finishing mine. The teacher is taking a risk by putting images of themselves in a public place as I feel talking about their private lives should be kept private. Anyway back to you, how old is your teacher? chances are even if they do think your a nice person, they will remember first and formost that they signed up to be a teacher and professionalism comes first. Dating students is crossing the line and could mean up to 8 years prison for the teacher. Could you imagine telling your parents you were seeing sir?!
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (6 March 2011):
 really you should wait a bit, if he is willing to have sex with you while you are still at a school he is working at then he is not the type of man you want to know. if he is decent he will decline and you wont be able to go anywhere with it in future. wait till you leave the school and then go for it...there are always more fish in the sea. believe me
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2011): I don't think you should send him a message for these reasons. 1) The schoolboard might find out and your teacher could lose his job for sending/receiving inappropriate messages from someone who is a student even though you're 18. 2) He could report you to the schoolboard and that would cause some major problems for you. I strongly suggest that you don't do anything about it because he could lose his job and you have your whole life ahead of you. If something like that got out if will follow you around for the rest of your life. If you really are interested in him you should wait until you graduate to confront him even if you're afraid he'll already be in a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2011): If you're still going to the school where he taught you don't contact him since he can get into trouble if he becomes involved with you. If he isn't looking for a relationship why would you be worried that he will be in one?I think it would be better for you to lose your virginity with someone who you have relationship with.
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