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writes: I accidentally found my bf's msn history on his computer, for some reason it was in his music folder..the conversations on there were all sexual. He sends some of the girls pictures and they send some in return. He talks on the phone with them, but i cannot positively say that they have phone sex...I am only 80% sure of this.c With all this said I am not offended by the online chat, as i know i myself have been guilty of this also. As for phone conversations I have also talked on the phone with some other guys, nothing sexual. We are both so tight, and so very similar. We definately have a future together. The main girl that he talks to lives in sdney, and I know he would never cheat on me without telling me that we should go on a break. My biggest problem really is that when i was overseas i slept with someone else. if he found this out we would be over insantly. I am not happy with his online chatting, however i feel i have to be as i have cheated on him in a much worse way. your thoughts are apprciated
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2006): leave him
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2005): Hey my names becky, i think you should have a word with him about but it if you're unhappy with this tell him, however if you slept with some one else do not tell him about this unless you want to of corse. If he is like this if you were overseas then you never know he could have been up to the same thing too. Tell him that you both need to talk and ask him if he has ever felt really guilty about anythign and if he says no go on to the online chat and phone calls xxxx
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (21 June 2005):
 You say you 'definitely have a future together'. Sure you do, built on mistrust. Who can outdo the other?!
You've cheated on him, he chats to girls in a sexual way, sends them photos and God only knows what else. I'm sorry to say this, but you deserve each other. You don't respect each other at all. Why in the world are you together?
The only advice I can offer is that you both sit down and decide together to stop being 'unfaithful' to each other. Come clean over all that you have both done. What he is doing is wrong and you already know that what you did was wrong. If you really care about each other, you will consider each others needs, think of the effect this would have on each other.
I don't know whether your relationship will last because quite frankly, it seems as if you should both be single to pursue other love interests; you both don't appear ready for a committed relationship.
I'm sorry if I haven't said what you wanted to hear but I thought you would possibly prefer straight talking.
Good luck in what you decide to do.
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reader, jessknot +, writes (21 June 2005):
get rid of him or watch him very carefully. i had a bf like that, he would tell me he was at work and go off and do whatever with girls he talked to online and on the phone. it went on for months before i found out. i was so disgusted i threw up all over the place.
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reader, Scotty_uk +, writes (21 June 2005):
the first question you need to ask yourself is 'how much do you want this relationship'. you need to have a serious heart to heart talk with him about this. do not bring up the subject of your adventure overseas but talk more about the way you interact with other people (flirting etc.). at the end of the day you both need to decide if you want eachother as cheating and excessive flirting with other people will demolish a relationship not build a swimming pool and double garage.
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reader, aunt april  +, writes (21 June 2005):
i have found myself in this situation. my bf was found having phone sex and i was in turmoil , but you have cheated. You have had sex which as you say is a little more serious but if you really care for this person you should tell him beacause no one can live guilt free and it will be on your mind. I'm sure your boyfriend will not count cyber as cheating or phone sex so if you're going to tell him about you cheating dont use that as a scapegoat.
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