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writes:My fiance and I have been living together for a while and he never openly showed much interest in porn before and I liked that. I went out of town and when I came back our computer was completely messed up with viruses. I checked the history and found 3 days worth of porn and nude sites. Mostly referencing big boobs. I had to spend five hours debugging the pc. When I got home he had no interest in me sexually for 2 days..and I'm slightly flat chested. It just makes me less confident. Am I wrong for being bothered by all this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): no dont worry bout a thing its just that guys get bored sometimes and they tend to venture in different directions just try to stay sexually active with him and he will begin to steer clear of the internet when he realizes he has you 24/7.
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reader, Emerald2000  +, writes (14 June 2009):
Agreed with previous comments. You have nothing to feel insecure about. Men are visually oriented. We like to look at naked women. Yes, all of us. And as someone else mentioned, most porn has large breasted women. It doesn't mean we don't love you or that we would prefer another woman over you. In fact, it doesn't mean that at all. A lot of men prefer big breasts but some even prefer small. But that is just to look at. In terms of love or relationships it's a package deal. It's about you - all of you. So trust me, you have nothing to worry about it - at least as far as that issue is concerned (can't speak to the state of your relationship beyond that). Oh, and don't hassle him about the porn. He'll just resent it, go more underground, or get pissed off and all defensive. Let it go because it is truly nothing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2009): I agree with sincerely re: breast size.
My motto: There is no such thing as a below-average breast.
I honestly feel most if not all men have the same motto whether they say it or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): There was a similar question a few days ago and there was a large amount of answers and discussion on this subject. Perhaps it would give you more understanding if you read these discussions than if I try to repeat some of the things that I said in that question.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/questions-about-porn.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2009): If you're bothered by something, then you're bothered.. there's no right or wrong about it. Everyone has rights to their insecurities and those who tell you that you're wrong to be bothered, simply have to empathizign skills and can only see through their eyes.
Now what to do about it?
I suppose he was suddenly interested in these sites because you were away, and he needed to please himself during that time. Or was he just hiding it from you? And if so, why would he do that? Did he go searching for bigboobs or is that just what popped up? Becuast that is the way most porn is, i'm afraid? Did seeing these other big breasted women make him see you differently, or wish you were different? I think most men are happy as long as there are breasts present..
My point is.. can you answer these quesitons? Becuase if not, then you really need to communicate this problem with yiur fiancee, not with us. THen only person who can make you feel beautiful all over and inside out, is him. There is a TON of debate of this subject on this site though, so you may want to do a little searching, to see how other women feel about it.
~SY.
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