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writes:Hi Everyone. I asked a question on this site a couple of weeks ago as I was thinking of ending my 5 year relationship. I have now done this and feel stronger in myself and I know it was the right thing to do as there was just nothing between us anymore. My question is how do I move on? I'm not upset, depressed and devastated but think I should be. I don't feel anything at all. Is this a normal reaction when it was me that ended the relationship. I'm not looking for anyone else at the moment as it would be totally on the rebound. I just don't know how I should be feeling - help if you can!! Thanks.
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reader, sunshine99 +, writes (14 March 2007):
 All i can say is you are such a strong person. Well done. Many people stay in long and meaningless relationships because they simply can't bring themselves to end it and don't want to be alone. You knew deep down that this relationship had run its course so you now feel relieved. Start going and out and have some fun girl! You deserve it and good luck for the future - and with that Mr Right (in time) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2007): you have probably battered yourself mentally for months if not longer before the end of this relationship.the main thing you're probably feeling is relief but you're too nice a person to admit this.why do we feel we have to suffer more than necessary?some of us are so used to drama that we question calm waters.relax and go back to being yourself.would you feel better if your ex had been the instigator.then you could be devasted?be realistic.it feels the way it does because you took control.maybe you didn't have that before?let yourself accept that you did the right thing.everything will take its natural course.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (13 March 2007):
 I am in your position right now, only it's only been 2 years for me. I feel numb too. I think it's because it's just the right decision and we know that so we can't be sad. I know I feel a bit lonely but only because I'm used to having someone there. I think our bodies are telling us that we knew it was coming to an end and maybe we have been ready for this for a long time so have already dealt with it?
I think it's good that you're feeling strong, the worst thing is to feel insecure and go running back even though you know splitting up is the right decision. I've just been keeping busy and getting used to being on my own again. You should do the same, start enjoying being just you again and not part of a couple. And most of all, start having some single fun again! That doesn't have to mean meeting new guys, just doing what you want and having no one to answer to!
Have fun and keep strong, this was totally the right decision if you feel this way. Good luck.
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