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writes: I'm always attracted to older guys. I'm 14 but i find guys over 17 years and beyond very attractive is there something wrong with me in not being able to like a guy my age? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell i'm not sure about not being alone with them, but i certainly will not do anything stupid
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reader, ArtsyGirl  +, writes (13 May 2011):
It's OK to find anyone of any age above 17 attractive/have crushes on them. It is not OK to try and date them/flirt with them/have any sort of relationship with them, except for friendship. But even then you should not be alone with anyone 18+ years old
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionis 30's "older" normal or is it to certain age?thank you all for your responses
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2011): Girls mature physically earlier than boys. Not mentally.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlol sorry i just turned 15 but i wrote 14 but yeah thank you I'll give them a chance
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2011): There is nothing wrong with you. In fact, when you get older, it's even a good thing that you like guys who are a little bit older than you because girls usually mature faster than guys which means that you get to have a guy who is in the almost same maturity level as yours :)
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reader, ArtsyGirl +, writes (7 May 2011):
It's completely normal to feel that way. Heck I did and still do! But there is a fine line between being attracted to these older guys and acting upon it. So while your feelings are normal it is not right to try and get with these people not only because it would be illegal and get them in trouble, but you could be damaged easily by them emotionally because they may only want you for sex.But like Cerberus said, give guys your age a chance. Some are jerks and some are gentlemen. But don't be afraid to take chances!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2011): No, there's nothing wrong it's very normal for a girl your age or any age to be attracted to older men.
It sounds like you're just idolizing these older boys and comparing guys your age to them. Why not just give guys your age a chance, your heart doesn't have to skip a beat to like a guy, there are different levels of liking someone. So even if your knees don't go weak but you find a guy your age attractive give him chance, you never what it may grow into.
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reader, AnalyticalMentalityOx  +, writes (7 May 2011):
Well I'm eighteen and i find myself attracted to guys in their twenties. The reason for this is the same as yours, they know how treat a girl and have this charm and are attractive in so many other ways than the guys our own age! This is why you find many girls date older, it isn't bad if you do. Although yes, they may be older physically, but mentality since we mature quicker, they are on the same level as us. Also, they have experience in relationships, so they know more rights from wrong and how to treat a girl than the ones our own age. I don't understand myself why i prefer them, just i know there is something that attracts me more towards them and never guys my own age. But remember not all guys your own age are bad and should be ruled out, just it's natural for girls to want to date older
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (7 May 2011):
 Hello :)It is very common for girls of your age to be interested in older boys, some say you may be looking for an older boy because you need to feel loved, others will say because you want to seem more grown up yourself, so being with an older boy will make you feel mature. However to have these interests in older boys is a natural process that most girls go through, its not wrong to have these thoughts, however I would like to offer you this advice, most boys at the age of 17 + are rarely wanting to have a real relationship , as they are very young and wild at this age, so would probably be only after one thing!! also at your age you are very vulnerable because this is the age where a young girls hormones are also all over the place, and you can easily confuse hormones with love or lust for somebody. do you have a close relative you can talk to about your feelings? or friend? because I would like for you to be safe, and get the right help through these very delicate years. And remember your body is your temple, so please don't feel pressured into a relationship with an older boy.I hope this has helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2011): That's okay you like older men. I think a lot of women do cause the men are experienced in life and women maybe find a sense of security in that. There's girls in my country who are 16 and marry 30-35 year old men... but that's cultural and not necessarily because the women want an older guy, that's just the way the cards fold out sometimes. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2011): you more than likely are attracted to older guys because they not immature like boys they act like men.and who wants an immature little boy..
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reader, LaurenAmy +, writes (7 May 2011):
I'm 14 too, and i seem to think older guys are more attractive.I've been told its normal, you just want someone who mature and can handle you.. it's perfectly normal x
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