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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (27 June 2007):
 You may have pushed her too far away now, but why not have one last stab at getting her back and tell the truth. Explain how things are rough at home. You don't have to go in to all the details. Just be prepared for the fact that if she likes others you have probably lost her!
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (17 June 2007):
 i no she is probably ur one but maybe now u should let her chose or u should now get over her she may of told u she likes u but from it now she goin to a guys house that she likes and he might like her i think its for the best its breaking ur heart and i know its going to be hard but it for the best if u want to talk u can email me xx good luck
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reader, shortybabes +, writes (17 June 2007):
 She obviously doesn't want to be your girlfriend right now babe, i'm so sorry to hear that. It might be a good idea to try to move on though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok urm i have told her everything now and she says fine but i fancey u but am just not girlfreind material wat does that mean. as well shes going to the house of the guy she likes and the guy seems to like her and hes the kind of guy who likes to get with girls alot! HELP!! I realy cant live with out her
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2007): Honesty is best and i dont see why it wouldnt. You may be surprised by her recation to the TRUTH of what you tell her so give it a shot you will fell better to tell teh truth and she will be glad to know.
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (4 June 2007):
honestly is always best. i know how u feel i happned to me as well i got stressed with family life and school work i was trying to control too much and than one day i just burst i toke it out on everyone and my relationship ended i told him the truth and now we are just friends as we both felt in the end it was for the best but i did regret it but it may be different for you guys. i hope it all goes well 4 u xxx
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reader, candy00s +, writes (4 June 2007):
 You need to tell her why you ended things with her, be completely honest tell her how you regret doing this and wish you hadnt pushed her away.
She might forgive you and take you back but you need to be truthful with her about everything and reassure her that you wont push her away again.
I also think you need to learn to let people in and open up about your feelings.
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2007): Dear: I feel deeply sorry for you because I had a similar situation when I was 21. My grades weren't very good at college but when my parents got into this personal mess in their relationship I got into a depression and got even worst grades and got kicked out of college. This experience marked my life to the point that I didn't regained my self esteem until I recently finished my Master's Degree with honors. You were obviously going through a depression and needed to get yourself together. Your mistake was not to tell her the truth. If she really loves you and is mature enough she'll understand if you tell her exactly what happened to you. Depression is an illness and you have to learn about it and about how to deal with it. Also, you have to learn about co-dependency. Co-dependency happens when you've been brought up in a family where you feel so insecure you unconciously try to control situations and people so you won't get hurt. It happens mostly in family environments where one or both parents are alcoholic or do drugs. But you have to understand that no matter what your decision to lie to this girl instead of telling her the truth was not a good choice. It will take time and effort of your part for her to trust you again. But please don't go after her like crazy asking for her forgiveness everyday because you could end up making her hate you. And whatever you do think that you are a beautiful person with or without a girlfriend. The secret to have a healthy relationship is to be happy with yourself and like yourself and accept you for what you are and not for what your family, friends or enemies think about you. Because in this life my dear you are never going to be loved by everyone. So accept that. And always think that no matter what only God accepts us completely with our virtues and defects.
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (3 June 2007):
 You should of been honest wiv her in the first place and possibly saved yourself a lot of heartache.
The only thing you can do now is to give her a ring or meet her somewhere and tell her everything about how you feel and the reasons to why you lied to her.
Not telling her the truth may lead you to regret missing that opportunity that was laid before you..While nothing has been set in stone take advantage of this situation while it is still fresh in both of your heads and see where that leads.
You should of used her for support in your position rather than push her away the way you did...
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