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female
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36-40,
*heothergirl
writes:Hello, I had ask for your help last week and now, I still am. I did hang on to the married man, hoping that he would come to me one day; to tell me that he's leaving his wife. He didn't! Ironically, his wife came from the beauty salon, he took her picture. She was all smiling and happy in the picture. When I ask him about it, he had a smirk on his face. I took the liberty to erase it. He got mad. After 7 months, if he really were having problems with her, he woulda left her ass. I feel just like a little ho that he was using for something or another. I told him its over but I still love him though I feel hurt. So please, help me once again to forget about him so I could go back to my boyfriend of 2 years. Thanks.
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reader, agony_uncle_r  +, writes (4 June 2007):
you chose to go with a guy u knows married and now u feel hurt when the obvious finally outs itself.. wow your smart. you deserve to get used if you put it on a plate for married men.
and if you lie and cheat on your bf im sorry but you are a ho. do the humane thing and leave your bf, your nothing but bad news for him as all u care for is yourself
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2007): Hey you put it on a silver platter, what's a guy to do. Don't feel used, if you already knew he was married.
I think you make "going back to ur boyfriend" sould like a task. Maybe you need some YOU time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2007): Well......you chose to associate with the married man, now didn't you? He didn't force you to have an affair with him. If he "used" you, it was because you allowed him to.Harsh? yes, but its reality. Nobody can MAKE you feel used without your permission.As for forgetting him so you can go back to your former boyfriend - come now. He's not going to want to be a consolation prize, you know! If you try, then YOU will be the one doing some "using" of your own!You'd do much better to begin thinking about your own life and try to learn from your experience. Leave both of them alone.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (3 June 2007):
 You're going to be ok. You can't be selfish and expect people to break up a marraige, not to mention walk away from kids. Marraige is a serious commitment! How would you feel if some woman came along and stole your husband, not to mention the father of your kids? It would be devastating? I think it's better that you walk away, and not be responsible for the destruction of a woman, family, and possibly career. There are single guys out there that could possibly be good for you. Try being single for a while, and be happy with you. As far as your boyfriend of two years: it sounds like he's the second choice for you. Don't make into the last resort. That's not right for either one of you. It's also not right to use someone up, throw them away, then try and go back to them, after you've done the damage. You're basically saying that it's ok for you to do to him what the married man did to you. You've already cheated on your boyfriend, I'm assuming, so leave him be. He doesn't deserve any more pain. If you respect him in the least, you'll let him get on with his life, and thinks the world of him, and not just a last resort.
-DV1
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