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writes:Thank you in advance for your answers. It all started about a month ago...after I just broke-up with my gf and exactly on the same day she broke-up with her bf. We were complete strangers, almost complete strangers.I met her at a school event a few days before, she is a singer and I was asked by a teacher to film the show she was in. I liked her, the way she dressed, the way she looked... and her voice was absolutely beautiful... We didn't talk then, but after I broke-up with my gf I wanted to meet new people. I wasn't looking for a relation because I was devastated after an year and three months relation...I got her IM id from a friend... and so I discovered we were sort of in the same situation. We started talking daily, we went out a few times, but just as friends of course. She really trusts me a lot, we can talk about everything, sometimes we talk on the phone for over three hours and neither of us gets bored. Se is 16 and I'm almost 19. My problem is that my feelings for her are changing now... I like her a lot, and now it's more than that, I have fallen in love with her. I was honest and I told her that my feelings changed. I used to tell her everytime we talked, whether it was on the phone, internet or face to face, to "take care". I then told her that I would really like to be together and if she agrees I didn't need to tell her "take care" anymore 'cause that would become my job. I opened my heart and told her everything I feel for her. She replyed to me that she can only see me as her best friend, a friend who is sweet snd she likes very much but nothing more. She likes going out with me, talking with me, but unfortunetly she doesn't feel the same for me, though she would like to feel that for me...What can I do? I am desperate!!! She is the girl of my dreams! I want to be with her and take care of her, give her the best, spend a lot of time with her, share romantic moments... I would like her to give me just a single change to prove her all these... In the weekend she had a small concert at the local theatre and just before that I had a talk with her and we both agreed to stop any contact and anything that links us... It was my wish because I just couldn't stand next to her without thinking that I'd like to give her a big, passional kiss, that I'd like to hold her hand... She told me she would like me to go to her concert and I replyed that I don't think it's the best ideea, but I'm not sure if I'm going or not.Eventually, I showed up with a friend and we filmed the whole show, it was a succes, she was very happy to see me, I brought her flowers... but my heart was broken...I can't break any contact with her, I just can't, I love her and she knows it she wants to be just friends.Please help me! Tell me what to do! I'm desperate, I'd do anything for her, I only want a chance, that's all I want! Please help me if you can!Ohh and please excuse my bad language skills (i'm a romanian) and the long post!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2007): I know how you feel about her, try to just be friends with her, maybe she will see the wonderful person that you are and eventually she will feel the same for you.What I am trying here is to just give her some time. She just broke up with her boyfriend, she may need time to just get over him. Be the best friend that you can to her. Goood luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou didn't understand at all! Things are different, she isn't a star yet and she doesn't have any fans. That's not the way how she treats me. In fact she told me a couple of times that am am somehow superior to her. She is the one who admires me. Once she told that she dreamt at a boy like me, exactly like me, but now when she found me she is confused... She said that I am almost perfect and that she can't find something that she doesn't like at me. That's why I am so desperate...
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reader, nologo  +, writes (17 April 2007):
 This sounds like you have a crush on that singer.
At the moment she treats you like you are her fan.
"I want to be with her and take care of her, give her the best, spend a lot of time with her, share romantic moments"
Right now she is not looking for this type of relationship.
You acknowledge you can't break any contact with her and she wants to be just friends - I think you should agree with her.
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