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writes:We don't know each other well or at all. We have had small talks but that's just it. I fell for her looks. I have asked if I could contact her but she said she has a boyfriend. We won't be seeing each other anymore and I don't know if I should try to be friends with her the next time i see her. We were never really friends as I just talked to her very tiny bit to try to get her number. Next time I see her, should I just cut it short? I can't really think of anything to talk about with her since I broke the ice already, and I feel like that was too early.
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (13 January 2013):
 I want you to remember though; well done for asking for her number. That is what you should do. It doesn't matter if she gives it to you or not. The point is you asking for her number.
Some will give it to you and some won't. Regardless of the response it's a good thing you ask.
Now go strike up conversations with other girls and don't be a wimp. Ask for the number and shut up :)
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (9 January 2013):
 Cancel the friendship request.
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reader, kenny +, writes (9 January 2013):
 if you feel like cancelling your face book friend request then cancel it, its been a while hasen't it, i probablly would if it were me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhaha thanks guys. i actually asked for her number and she said shes already in a relationship :( on another note i feel like cancelling my facebook friend request. she said i can and its been awhile since i requested to add her. i dont even use facebook that much. should i cancel or just leave it?
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (9 January 2013):
Sorry, I thought you wanted a girlfriend not a friend.
Yes, cut it short. Just be polite then say you got to go, you've got something to do, someone to meet.
Don't always be there.
She might be giving her boyfriend the old heave ho so you want to see if she's interested. She'll ask you questions, she'll want to talk to you, she'll approach YOU if she's interested.
Having said that, generally, where there's a boyfriend or even an EX in the background chances are slim for you. Best to move on, speak to other girls. If this one is interested she'll come to you but don't go counting on it.
Move on. If it happens it happens. In the mean time find other girls.
p.s. Well done on approaching her though. Next time instead of asking if you can contact her just come out and ask for her number. "Hey, it's been nice talking to you... What's your phone number?" and shut up.
Asking if you can contact her is wimpy.
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reader, Ciar +, writes (8 January 2013):
Like the others I recommend you not pursue a friendship. You don't have 'friend' feelings for her, her boyfriend won't appreciate it and she will be put in an awkward position. What kind of friend does that?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 January 2013):
 No, she has a BF, so trying to be friends is not a great idea, specially since you don't have "friends" kind of feelings for her.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 January 2013):
 I would not try to be friends with her.
Just be yourself... don't over think it.
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reader, kenny +, writes (8 January 2013):
She was open and honest about the fact that she had a boyfriend, a good thing in this day and age. If you see her out and about somewhere just be polite, say hello, how are you, but thats it, don't attempt to take it any further than that.
Good luck
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