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writes:Hi, I am gay 20 year old. I have had a partner for 3 years now. Over a year ago I found someone online and went to his house wanting a friend. He made a move on me and I pushed him away and left, 3 months later my partner found out from this other guy and believes a lot more happened and refuses to believe me. Since then I have lost all my friends deleted all social networks because I was asked to by my partner but still he does not trust me. We have finished but he wants to get back together. Do I go back? I know I was wrong for going to meet someone else even if it was for friendship because he was a stranger. Or do I simply move on. I feel trapped in the relationship and I just don't know.
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reader, Orbiter +, writes (15 March 2011):
I can see why your partner would be suspicious but if he's still not able to trust you after you've stopped seeing friends/deleted social networks then he's never going to.You'll just continue to feel more trapped and miserable. I think it's better for both of you to just move on.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (15 March 2011):
 you dont tend to find friends on the net on sites like gaydar. if people think thats what they are looking for then good luck to them but i think all they are for is sex. friendships take a lot more time and are a lot more random, than just deciding to HAVE a friend.
anyway your boyfriend was justifiably suspicious but it does sound like he doesn't trust you and his desire to get rid of your friends and take you off social networks is crazy possessive. red flag red flag.
i suggest you stay away from him as anyone that possessive will never be able to trust anyone properly.
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