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writes: i am 17 yrs old i love my bf but i feel like i am getting tied down too quickly i want to be with him but just not yet! it would brake his heart if i broke up with him! what should i do?
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reader, Dawnest +, writes (11 January 2006):
And you are too young to be tied down.You need to experience more of life/live a little more/have fun not become a staid appendage to someone else.
Limit the amount of time you spend together and start doing fun things with your friends. Go bowling/skating/line or other dancing and let your hair down. As time passes, you will both realise that what you had was delicious but both your priorities will change as you get older. Dont actively end the relationship but space does have a way of mutually ending it and it will when the time is right.
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reader, 2EsillyaMuse'D +, writes (11 January 2006):
What do you mean by "tied down"? If you're feeling tied down because he's talking marriage, then ask him to slow down. If you don't feel ready for that high a level of commitment, then of course don't go for it. If he's really that set on marriage, then tell him you need time to yourself. Don't call it a breakup just yet, since you should intend to get back to him (and DO get back to him after a couple weeks! Don't leave him hanging, waiting for you to come back and never do it). That'll give him a little taste of your leaving, and it should do one of two things: either get him to realize you're serious about not moving so fast and make him slow down, or get him to realize he's not solely dependent on you and he'll break it off himself, which will take the blame off you and hopefully soften the blow for him.
If, however, you feel tied down because you don't want to date just one guy, then I think you need to examine yourself. Why is it dating one guy isn't enough? Are you commitmentphobic? Are you bored with him? If those are your reasons, then the nicest thing to do is explain that to him and hope he'll move on. It's not fair to him to have him hanging on to you when you're not willing to hang on to him (only).
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reader, lizabeth +, writes (10 January 2006):
all great love stories start at a young age. but your right, you have your whole life ahead of you. maybe you should wait until your relationship has ran its course a bit. otherwise talk to him, it may break his heart but in the end its your decision. if your not happy, end it, its only fair to him and yourself, if your only having doubts,talk to him and take some time out to figure out what you want, you may realise you don't and never want to be without him. or you might realise your its for the best and that you need to go your seperate ways. it may kill him inside but trust me he'll get over it eventually.
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