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writes:Hi, Thanks for reading this, hope you can help.Basically mine is two parts but related. The first is the fact that I am moving 260 miles away TODAY! and feeling awful/scared about it, I am 30 years old and live in a big city and I LOVE MY LIFE here, I was born and raised here and am settled in a nice flat, living with my best friend and have good friends and family and can shop and at 2am go get a cocktail, I love it. I use to work in marketing and enjoyed it.But.. I decided to do a years nursing course this year for a career change, I think wanted a real job and applied everywhere, only place got onto course was this small Uni, out in the country miles and miles away (7 hours by car) I accepted it as I managed to get them to agree that I could do half the course back home. So I am going to be gone 15 weeks as of today and will be back every other weekend, But how will I cope? Is it that long time? I have been 4 times to the place and each time did not like it, I feel too old to be up rooting my life. I need advice on how to cope. Plus I will be honest not 100% sure want to be a nurse. The second part is in regards to a man I met last week in a bar, the most gorgeous man ever, funny, smart, sexy and perfect. We chatted all night, I was honest about going away, so few days later, we had a date and one a few days later. I am also sad as I feel as I am going away me and him wont happen now. He said that its not a long time and and as long as back weekends (which will be every 2 weeks) that no reason why can not go on more dates. But I mean realistically, is it going to work at all? Just met and I am off for 3 months today. I need some advice. I just do not want to go at all... is 3 months that long or will it be Christmas before I know it.. can I do this? even in a place I do not like, living with people who are not my type? Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2010): Hi
I have also been a student nurse and rehab physio when i was 25, but lucky it was on the job training local hospital. Loved it but nursing is really a vocation to make a good nurse your heart must be in it, the patients need that care and if you don't feel right i would rethink your options. The biggest indication to not been right that i see in your words is 'living with people not your type'. You will be working 24-7 with people not your type, caring for people not your type ,from all walks of life, drunks drug addicts etc etc.....A true nurse in my opinion see's no divide.
You have to be honest with yourself ..do you want to think about your free time, new man , freinds, flat ,cocktails etc or DEDICATE yourself to a nursing career, wiping vomit up, wiping bottoms, bed baths and that includes bathing the dead patient. These are all THE REALISTIC parts of nursing that you will experience. It's hard work and very very demanding, no mistakes,weekends and night shifts, xmas work, sadness. but don't misunderstand me it is such a rewarding career and great friends are made if you choose this path. .
You see you are only at the starting stage and not happy and it will get more demanding when you actually do it......VOCATION AND DEDICATION AND CARING FOR ALL WALKS OF LIFE????
good luck what ever you decide.
Spunky monkey :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2010): 3 months is not that long. You've made a plan...you can do it. Go with the mind set that its not forever...home by Christmas. Go expecting to make new friends and have new experiences.
At the end of the course you will have attained a skill. If you decide you dont enjoy nursing...you cant go wrong by having the knowledge. You are not locked in for life.
The guy seems willing to hang around...date as you can. Use this time to talk on the phone etc and get to know one another....
Treat this as a great adventure....something to tell your friends about in 10 years.
good luck, mal
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reader, LiveAnnLearn  +, writes (11 September 2010):
 I understand how you're feeling, honestly if I was you I would most likely cancel the trip BUT the brave thing to do is to go. Maybe because of the guy you've met, the fact that you're leaving the place where you've spent your whole life or you're just being anxious because you don't know what to expect, whichever one of the reasons I think it's just temporarily that you're feeling this way about the whole thing.
Remember all of the reasons for why you decided you want to be a nurse in the 1st place, also give the new place a chance - might not look great but it could actually turn out to be one of the best decisions you've ever made. If you would decide not to go today you'd never know, but if after the 3 months spent there you still hate it you can always drop out and go back to your old life and a job in marketing. Remember all of the applications you filled too, I assume you worked very hard to find a way to finish this course, you owe it to yourself to go there now as well as try to enjoy yourself while you're there.
About the guy yeah, might be a bit hard but it could definitely work: you'll be probably seeing him every other week plus keep in touch online, what's even more important he already thinks it's not too long so I think it should work out. Good luck!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 September 2010):
 I think you are exagerating.
I can relate to you,though; not too long ago, after living for many years amidst the hustle and bustle of Manhattan, where you can get-buy-find absolutely anything at any time, day or night, I found myself back in Italy, which I had left long,long time ago- and not only, I was also stuck ( albeit just temporarily ) in a quiet,tidy ,smallish place in northern Italy, where you can't get a decent Cosmopolitan for the life of you...Talk about cultural shock. At first I was dismayed. But, as the Buddhists say, "there are no pure lands, there are no impure lands ". Each place is good or bad according to the eyes you are looking at it through. Be positive, appreciative, prejudice free, and you'll find that life in the new place is just different, not worse than before. Places ..are state of minds ,really. If you are happy and have peace of mind, you 'll appreciate your life wherever you are. So, don't be too critical and go look for all the positive sides of the new location.
Then, after all, it's only 15 weeks ! Such a short period !
They will pass in no time !
I suspect the main reason of your discomfort is your budding romance with the guy you just met. But,in a way, it's positive that there are obstacles right now. Because
if he wants to keep things going regardless of the distance, - then it means he is really into you and things between you could develop nicely. If he does not- if he can't handle 15 weeks of LDR,- he is just not worth your time and interest and will be screening himself out , saving you time and trouble.
Good luck !
between you can deve
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