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writes:My problem is that I slept with a guy a few times before he told me he has been in a long distance relationship for 2 years. He keeps telling me he really likes me though. The problem is I really like him too.I know I wouldn't ever be able to trust him if they broke up and we started dating. I believe that if he cheats with you, he'll cheat on you. But I just can't seem to get him out of my head! I told him I was deleting his number and didn't feel right about this. He has since texted me a few times to ask how I'm doing/how my week was etc. and saying he wants to see me. His texting makes it harder for me to forget about him. I feel like he just used me for sex and is a huge player but I don't know how to lose my feelings for him.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (17 April 2013):
 the easiest way to lose your feelings for him is to have no contact with him. Deleting his number is not enough. IF you can block it, do so. If you are not sure how call your phone provider to ask.
Also make sure he's blocked on email and social media and has NO way to contact you.
then you just get on with life, and slowly with time he will fade away. If you need help not contacting him picture his LDR girlfriend and how she would feel if you called her and told her he was a liar and a cheater.... then picture someone calling you and telling you that while you thought he was true and faithful to you all the time he was contacting other women behind your back and pretending to love them too....
You are correct, if he cheats on his LDR, he could very easily have the potential to cheat on you and getting away from him is wise.
And yes I am sure all he wants is fun and games and sex.
Best thing to do is go NO CONTACT....
if you can't bear to go NC then limit the contact to public locations, NO Physical contact, no sexting, no talk of sex.... I'm betting he'll tire of you fast when he realizes there is no sex to be had.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 April 2013):
 He probably IS just using you for sex. So block his number so he can't call or text.
How do you lose your feelings for him? OPEN your eyes and see how he treats YOU and his LDR GF. Is that really a decent guy? A guy you want to be with? Someone you can trust?
He keeps contacting you in hopes he can get some NSA sex from you, since it already happened in the past he think it will again perhaps in the future. STOP playing his games.
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reader, R1  +, writes (14 April 2013):
 The only way to lose feelings for him is to keep your distance and to focus on the negatives about a relationship with him. He lied to you, he is in a relationship with someone else, he lied to her and he is a cheat. I'm sure he can come across as very charming and attractive when he wants to but long term these qualities are not important, trust and loyalty are.
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