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writes:This is just a rant. I feel so lonely in school. I'm a straight-A student who takes all honors/AP courses. I'm not a "nerd", I just enjoy learning. Anyway, I used to be popular in this school. I switched here four years ago, and for the first two years, I had so many friends. Now, I only have one friend and *everyone* despises me. I feel so left out because the one friend that I do have gets more attention than I ever would, even though she can be really catty and mean to people. People only come to me to copy my work. I hate it! I'm always the last to get picked on teams, and no one likes when I'm on their team. I'm not weird or anything! I go to the bathroom during lunch, because the "popular" clique of girls took over my old table. I have nowhere to sit, no one to sit with... so I just sit in the bathroom and text my friends that don't live close, but I don't even see them often. It's as if I'm being bullied, but I'm not the type to look as if I were going to get bullied.I feel like everyone looks down upon me. I was waiting at a train station a few days ago, and my pants were sagging because I was tired and trying to read the bus schedule on the wall. A group of girls my age, dressed like they should be on the corner, were pointing and laughing at me. I can see why that'd be funny, but they were being so obvious. They wouldn't care if I saw. Am I just too vulnerable? Because I won't "beat up" anyone? I've never been in a fight. I would call myself cute and pretty. I always try to dress nice, I shop at decent stores, and I always do my make-up and hair. I have a boyfriend, and he adores me and my looks. So why does everyone else make fun of the way I look? I do have pretty serious acne and many scars from it, but I cover them up. My teeth aren't very straight due to an accident. My hair is kind of dry. I'm not 80 pounds. I'm so unpopular!
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (11 January 2012):
 Being singled out is no fun. Conformity could be an option onli within reasonable grasp. Further onli if u can see yourself as someone slightly different within ur school. Then of course u could do is transfer to another school. Now if u feel like ur being bullied that is a very serious issue and u should talk to a teacher or other administration.
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reader, Shadow Rose +, writes (10 January 2012):
 Unfortunately, high school is tough. Lucky for me, I'm in my second semester of senior year. Eventually you'll get out, and you'll get a new start. I'm a lot like you, I'm not like the "popular" people, which in my town is the stereotypical blonde hair w/ black undertones, tanned skin, corner clothing, and general bitchiness. Today I wore bright red pants, black and red mid-calf boots, a baggy jack skellington t-shirt, and a fading and worn black fedora. Think I fit in? If you said yes, you're wrong. But you know what I did? I made friends whenever I could, and I was nice to people, I made myself approachable because of my personality. Instead of hiding away, which I did a lot in middle school, I joined clubs. If you school has a club about something you enjoy, or something you'd like to do, then join it! I made tons of friends, and even became the president of one club, Anime club. And you know what? Some of my friends I met were friends of my boyfriend. I just recently met a girl my boyfriend knew (No past relationships or anything), and she and I are now friends! So ask your boyfriend if you can meet more of his friends? And finally, online communities. When I was without friends, I turned to websites with, quite frankly, anonymous strangers. I love pet sites, and I've made lots of online friends that way. I'll never hang out with user45938 or whatever, in real life, but at least I have someone to talk to! Anyways, my belief is to embrace who you are and dont let it get you down. And if you ever just need a friend to talk to, I'd love to talk, I enjoy making friends, even if I never do meet them in real life.
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reader, Usagi  +, writes (10 January 2012):
 unfortunatelly kids and teens can be more cruel than nazi sometimes, and without even a reason... i've been where you are and for a lot more years. you can either find comfort in your other friends or take a deep breath and approach someone in your school. just take a chance by staring a convo with a person that has never been mean to you. oh and this might cheer you up a bit. even though i was in a far worst position that you, i loved learnig too and now, at my school's reunion I was the one who found their place in the world, not the used-to-be-popular girls, they were mostly stuck in our hometown since they didn't even bother going to a good university. what i'm trying to say is, try to survive in their little fake society for now, and be the one who makes it in the real world.
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