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writes:The guy i've been out with for nearly 10 months called it off with me last month, he has since gone back to one of his ex's(why do they all go back to their ex's)Anyway we've always keept in contact throught the phone, basically the girl he has gone back to has now gone back to one of her ex bf who does not treat her well, won't let her do very much,anyway i'm always going to be there for my ex and he knows that very well hence why he rang me crying about the girl the other day,he doesn't really have many other people to talk to as they dont like the girl very much, he's not sure if she really does love him like she says or just doesn't want other girls to date him, but she tells him, the longer she's with the guy shes with now the more she becomes inlove with my ex, it all seems very strange to me, i would really love to help him but not sure if i can he's already changed since he's been kind of seeing her, the money he gets goes faster then before and people always say shes after his money and that it wont last between them, he asked me for 50 the other day and i felt bad for saying no How can i help him i feel really sorry for him that he doesnt no where he stands at the moment any advice cupids
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2008): Don't be "sorry" for him...kick his "sorry" butt to the curb! That man is no good for you. If you keep letting him treat you like a revolving door, you'll just keep going round in circles and confused. No...you need to tell him, either he stays or he goes, but not both.
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (9 November 2008):
Are you mad ? Why are you there for him after he left you for he ex who sounds like a bitch. Think about...he left you...for a nasty bitch. Does this not make you angry ?.Just leave him to it, hes treating you like an idiot and your letting him. Dont feel sorry for the guy who dropped you. He deserves everything he gets.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (9 November 2008):
 Whoa!
You need to stop feeling sorry for him.
I think that your feelings are still invested in this guy because he broke it off with you. I think that you feel that if he sees himself clear of the thing for his manipulating ex, that he will open his eyes and come running back to you. Don't judge him by his words. Judge him by his ACTIONS. He left you for her. It doesn't matter if she is good or bad, she isn't in competition with you for him. She actually already won that battle! He left YOU for Her, and THEN, he came back for WHAT???
To Cry on your shoulder!!!
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To ASK YOU FOR MONEY!!!
AND the Money is For HER!!!
This guy is such a loser and he is treating you SO badly. It's normal to want to take care of people for women, we naturally want to mother and baby people, but he Knows that and he is using you big time. I am sorry to be so blunt, but Hunnie, People can only treat you how you let them. You need to cut off your ties with this guy. You have a weak spot for him, so stop taking his calls, no facebook or texting. Go cold turkey and just stop any and all contact with him. He's no good for you, and all of the time and effort that you are wasting on him, you COULD be spending with a really nice guy who has genuine feelings for You. And that's is the kind of guy that you deserve to be with! I am assuming that you wanted some different opinions, and I hope that something in here helps you see the light! Good Luck Dear!
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reader, the one who doesn't know  +, writes (9 November 2008):
 let me get this straight: you have an ex, who got back to his ex, who eventually got back to one of her ex's?! yet, this other girl likes your ex, or so she says, and then they also say she's just after his money. on the other hand, you are asking us help, because you feel sorry for him, since he doesn't know where he stands. i can only advice to clarify that story, because i'm not sure where we can help...
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