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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear cupid.I have been with my girlfriend for almost two months...but i think something is not working out for me..she is korean..and came one year ago from there...of course we have different cultures..but i really try hard to understand her..but recently she has been acting wired...now she always tell me "no"..when i ask her to go out..and the reason is because..she is helping her parents to work on night..cleaning offices...is a tiring work i guess...so on weekend..she said that she has plans with her family...or just that she feels tired...i hate this because i really love to spend time with her..at our 2 first weeks of relationship everything was so good..she even tell me everytime she misses me..and hug me in our private times...but now it looks that im bothering her..and she doesnt want this...if she sees me if just because she doesnt want me to feel bad..now she just want to be close to her parents..and always tell me that they need her..and that she must help them..because if she doesnt do that..she will feel guilty..about something..so i dont know what to do...this have eben happening for 3 weeks.. almost 4..she study with me..and we see each other on school days..but she just want this..but there is another problem...she doesnt want anybody to know about our relationship in school..so in school i dont enjoy the relationship neither...and her parents doesnt know this too....i dont know if the problem is the culture or something..but this is driving me crazy..i dont like when she just dont care about me....what should i do??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2008): oh..thank you..i already tried to talk to her..but she just gets mad if i talk about this..she always tell me "you dont understand me"...but i really understand her..i dont get mad if she has to help her family...but this saturday i asked her to go out..and she told me..no because i want to stay at home and i want to sleep..so it makes me feel very frustrated....
also..when she has free times..she doesnt call me or even cares about how i am.....
but in school she tries to be nice..but still..i cannot fell happy with somebody that just want to see me in school...
ohh by the way..her parents dont know about our relationship...and we are scared if they know..because they have an old kind of thinking...myabe for been Koreans!!.
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