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writes:I feel like i really hate myself. Im in a really dark place. Basically, Im 27 years old and single mum to 5 month old baby. I dont know whether its cos I spend quite a bit of time alone and have a lot of time to think about things and Ive just started to hate myself and my past. Ive come to realise lately that every single relationship Ive had has always finished on bad terms with the guy finishing with me cos Ive annoyed them or Ive become too clingy. Then when Ive been dumped, I turn into some stalker bunny boiler tha wont leave them alone, make up lies about them and start to hassle their new girlfriends. But this was the past, Im not like this now and am ashamed at how I used to react to stuff. The only problem is, I live in small town where everyone knows everyone and I know that most men steer clear of me now or try and use me for one night stands. All my exes have new girlfriends. I cant help but feel jealous, when I know they are treating them much better than they did me and I just feel like such a failure and loser. I think Im just destined to be single forever. My babys father is around for our son but we are not in a relationship and get on better as friends. I just feel so unwanted, so unloved and so jealous, I hate feeling like this.
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reader, xAx +, writes (27 September 2010):
 i think that you should hire a nanny to take care of your baby/ask the babies father to take care of the child and go out with your girly mates and party somewhere not in your town. dress up and try to have a lot of fun!i also suggest you getting a hobby that you enjoy where there are lots of new people e.g. gym, excercise session at the gym, dancing, yoga etc.try to think of all the positives about yourself instead of the negatives. you say you're not like the way you were before hence you have learnt from the past and it's made you the strong person you are now! what's in the past is past and there's no point stressing over it if it's making you feel this low.have you considered moving to a different town?i think that it would be a good idea for you to seek therpy, or if you're too shy for that then buy a book about overcoming depression.i hope this helps :)
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (27 September 2010):
 I'm very sorry you feel this way, but is there a question here?
I would strongly suggest two things. First would be moving. Starting over some place where nobody knows you is a great way to reinvent who you are.
Secondly, I would encourage you to seek therapy. You sound awefully depressed and I would hate for you or your baby to be hurt because of it. Get some professional help. You know the relationship issues you've had in the past, you can use that knowledge to get stronger and improve yourself.
Good luck.
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