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anonymous
writes:Hi there, my problem relates to a man. What's new hey. I'll keep it really short (try to) I'm 33, his 28 we meet 6 months ago, In a bar one night. His gorgeous and knows it, obsessed with gym and looking good. I'm a good looking women but his better looking then me. Told me didn't want a relationship, as not ready to settle and thinks never will be, waiting to meet women he sees and instantly loves as feels not capable of love (his got issues, use to be fat kid etc)anyway we get on amazing but we agree to open relationship, which is fine as I don't believe in one partner, so we are very suited in that sense. We start saying I love you recently getting closer etc etc...now I should note here that his always told me he'd like to date a stripper. He thinks be hot and an ideal girlfriend (if he was ever to have one) for him. Anyway were close speak everyday and see each other loads, meet the friends talk about meeting family... Last 5 data though been cold and it comes out that his been the weekend with a lapdancer at one if Americas elite clubs...he didn't say much about it. I was thinking of doing it but decided not to and carry on in my boring office job, as i'm afraid it would damage me somehow! Anyway he apologized and said that he was with this girl and his sorry etc etc. I messaged him back and said i knew something had changed with you..So there you go it's over...I've deleted him from Facebook and I messaged to say i'm glad you got your wish and that I'm sorry I wasn't enough...I haven't heard from him since. I just feel so heart broken as I obviously can't compete with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2011): Trust me, anyone with an ounce of self respect is much better off than a stripper.
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reader, Mariab  +, writes (22 August 2011):
 6 months, no belief in 1 partner, agreement in place of open relationship till he falls in love with someone else... I am sorry but I am struggling to find the problem? He was honest with you from the beginning bout what he wanted. Entering into this type of relashionship is never easy! If you were developing feelings and falling for him you should of made it clear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2011): Oh dear, you say you dont want one partner but in this post everything you say is screaming the opposite.
You are were even thinking of demoralising yourself to be a stripper to keep a man! No no no. This is so wrong, you have only known each other 6months! The man is only in love with himself and has no respect for women.
I will be opening up a can of worms here but I dont think women who work in any sex industry, be it stripping or glamour models have respect for themselves.If they did then they would stand up to sleazey men who keep these institutes going and say no . Its the thin end of the wedge and just a couple of steps down from being a prostitute.
Your well rid of a man who is willing to pimp women to strip and have little one on one paid sessions.
Go find a real man, and not someone who only wants a woman to show off and be there to stoke his ego. He needs to grow up, and respect others and their feelings and frankly i dont think this will happen any time soon. This is a blessing in disguise.
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