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writes:well iam sometimes feel that i care way to much about other people and other things then i do myself,but time to time i do think about myself but usally i feel bad about myself like iam fat or ungly,what should i do about this? Reply to this Question
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reader, ashlea  +, writes (20 August 2008):
Hiya!What are you worrying youself over this for? Everyone is unique so it doesnt really matter what anyone thinks or what people dress like or what their hair is like. We all all in the same position when it comes to things like this cause i get like this sometimes bt at the end of the day love yourself for who u are + dont let ANYONE bring you down. I dont. To be perfectly honest i couldnt give a shit what people think about me. If u dont like me then fuck u cause i couldnt give a toss! thats all i think so take a leaf out of my book + start thinkin like that yeah love? x
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (20 August 2008):
 Oh dear, I just want to tell you that you're not alone on this. About 80% of women out there have a low self-image.
What you could start doing is accepting yourself and the person who you are. And what you also have to learn is that every woman (and man) is beautiful no matter what.
You can set out to be anything you want, and the only person standing in your way is you. What makes a person beautiful is confidense. If you have big confidense on yourself, even if you have a few extra pounds, you are going to be considered beautiful. I cannot tell you how many times met a person who's socially considered pretty who put me off by her lack of confidence and who ended up looking ugly to my eyes. And I can count to you those few girls who are considered "ugly" (or fat, really) in society's eyes that I considered highly attractive because they felt great about themselves and LOVED being themselves.
So to build up your confidense, a good tip that you can apply to yourself is that every morning when you go to brush your teeth or something, but you have to look at the mirror. Well, you look at yourself, smile, and take a minute or two to repeat this phrase as many times as you want: "I am a beautiful person, both inside and out". Do this every day. I know that at the beginning, you will absolutely not believe what you're saying. But keep on repeating this and you will see changes in you. You will get more confident and you will appreciate yourself more. I can tell you by personal experience that this works.
But in the end, you have to end up not caring about what others think of you. I know this is easier said than done, but it saves you many headaches. A good way I semi-accomplished this (I still do get self-conscious in times), is by thinking that those people out there don't even know who I am and don't and will probably never end up caring about my own feelings. So why should I care about theirs? They may think I'm ugly, but they don't see what a wonderful person I am for many reasons. You should think of this yourself.
Also, remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. To me, a beautiful smile makes a person very attractive. A fake or bad smile, no matter how attractive the person supposedly is, makes me think the person is ugly. I can put Vannessa Hudgens as an example. To me, her smile is very fake, and although I do recognize she is attractive, she doesn't seem to me as pretty as she could be. In the other hand, Mila Kunis, has such a sweet smile and although she has some similar face structures as Vanessa, she ends up looking way prettier than her.
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