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writes:I'm 15, and never had a girlfriend, been kissed or even held hands with a girl. Am I doing someting wrong? Whenever I think a girl likes me it always turns out that they were just being friendly. My brother is 2 years older than me but has had at least 10 girlfriends. He gets girls so easily and I don't know how he does it. Is being a nice, funny, ok looking guy not good enough? Or should I become more bold in asking girls out? Except everytime i ask a girl out they always say no and that they just want to be friends. I don't like going through that with every girl I ask out, so what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008): Ask your bruv if it's ok to hang out with him when he's on the pull. Not only can you watch and learn, you may well scoop up some tasty morsels who like the contrast between bruvs and prefer you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2008): im in the exact same situation as you are. but my advice is to be confident, to be yourself show your personality, be more bold but not to bold, be sweet to girls, compliment there personality, things you like about them, be that one guy who makes a difference. plus your only fifteen, sometimes people have to wait to expierience love, plus you should enjoy having loose feet while you still can:]
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (20 August 2008):
 Original Poster:
Have you ever asked your brother what's his secret on getting girls? If you haven't I suggest for you to at least try. He might feel like teaching you and passing down his secret.
Also, you're not the only one who didn't have kiss, held hands or had a (boyfriend) at your age. I got my first kiss when I was almost 16, to my first boyfriend.
As for personal experience, most girls like bolder guys. If you like a girl, don't heistate on flirting with her and don't just stand there. When you flirt with a girl, flatter her by telling her sweet stuff about them and compliment her assets (hair and face, don't get to boobs or legs unless she's open sexually). But the key here is to FLIRT, so the person you like realizes that you like them back and to also make them like you (because you compliment them). You would be basically killing two bird with one stone.
Also, don't be TOO nice. Stand up to your own beliefs and stick with them when something goes against them.
And like purple said, don't joke too much around. Some girls will not think you're serious enough for a relationship and be aware of what kind of jokes to use around girls. Some girls get offended by the slightest of insults, so try to be tactful.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (20 August 2008):
 I agree with all that purple1234 says but I would add that it is perfectly OK not to have a girlfriend when you're 15 so don't get stressed about it. Take a long view, keep yourself fit and healthy, be nice, study hard and get good grades. In the long run you'll do far far better girl-wise than the guys than the guys who seem to have all the luck when they're 15 but can't get a decent job when they're 25.I don't think I talked to a girl who wasn't somehow related to me before I was 18 (I went to a all boys boarding school). I had zero idea what to say to them, no confidence. But eventually it all clicks into place.
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