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writes:Me and my girlfriend have been going out for a while now and I feel that she isn't putting as much effort into our relationship as I am, I give her plenty of attention but she only gives me a little, I don't like to seem selfish here but I don't know what to do Reply to this Question
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reader, jezman  +, writes (21 May 2008):
 ok dude thats just scary i feel that your in exactly the same situation as me because i was going out with my girlfriend for 7 months and then we split up :S
but anyway that doesn't mean that you'll split up soon!!! it has no relevance!!! :P
on a serious note, i think deema has said it all.
they will never know until you let them know because no-one can read minds (i hope)
good luck and keep us posted :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionjezman to answer your question her and I have been going out for about 7 months now
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reader, Deema +, writes (20 May 2008):
 We all find it difficult to ask for our needs to be met, but it really is that simple. We think the other person should know what we want - but they don't. She probably has no idea you're not getting what you need cus it may not be within her reasoning to know that. So tell her how much you like it when she gives you a hug, or whatever it is you want, and encourage her to give you more. Or just plain come out and ask for it. However you do it, just do it. THEN if she still doesn't do it, you have something to be worried about. No one can read our minds, its just not possible. Good luck.
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reader, wendy920 +, writes (20 May 2008):
I know where you're coming from. Some people aren't as "giving" as others and that's okay, but that just means that person isn't for us. Have you asked her where she stands in the relationship yet?
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reader, jezman +, writes (20 May 2008):
ive been in the same situation, my girlfriend never called and i was the one to call her etc. important: you have to find out if she still likes you as much as she did when you started going out with her. i understand that you may not want to chat with her about it because it might jeapordise the relationship or it may look like your just being too sensitive or selfish but on the other hand if you leave this then it may escalate into worse problems and maybe even breaking up. can you talk to each other about everything? if so then find a moment when you're alone, relaxed and compassionate to talk about the situation and try and keep your cool.how long have you two been going out for?
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reader, Scarlettxx  +, writes (20 May 2008):
 Talk to her.The basis of any good relationship is communication. When communication falls apart then it's time to think about where the relationship is going. Obviously this is making you feel bad and there could be a reason why your girlfriend is distant.So talk to her and see what's wrong. Tell her that you feel that you're giving your 50% but where is her 50%? You're not being selfish. A relationship has to be 50/50. No 80/20. Communication is the key.:)
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