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*rhappydude69
writes:I have been having some very strange feelings about my beautiful Dobermann Pincher named Shelly. I have owned her for aout 6 years and she has been a wonderful, loving and loyal pet. It just feels like more than that lately. I don't have many friends and I haven't had a girlfriend for about 10 years, but I feel romantically attracted to my dog. I know it's wrong, but she is so sweet and loving that I get these urges to be with her.. romantically. I feel sick and wrong, but what do I do? I love her so much, I feel like we are soulmates or something. Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): Diovanlestat gave the best advice, loving your dog is not wrong, and its a good relationship to have. but do not engage in anything beyond whats appropriate, you may end up hurting her physically and damage her trust in you. take her out join dog walking groups, events, and get out there. she maybe your soulmate, but not all soulmates have to end in a sexual relationship.
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reader, rejuven8  +, writes (29 December 2008):
Ok wow! And I thought that I had problems!!! You told me to get a dog..............now I really have 2 tell you, please get a girlfriend!!! O, by the way, thanx a lot for your answer, it really helped a lot!!! I think that everything will be fine now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): Mrhappydude, thanks for your update. You can do things that involve your dog. How about joining a dog owners club or training her and putting her into competition. This way you both get to meet people together, she can find a partner and you can as well, and you'll share interests with the people you meet.
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reader, mrhappydude69 +, writes (29 December 2008):
mrhappydude69 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you for your feedback. i really appreciate it and i hope to meet more women and people with similar interest so i can distance myself from Shelly.
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reader, lilgirly  +, writes (28 December 2008):
 the thing is its really very clear..you're just lonely,just the fact of not having any friends,or girlfriends..no social life?
i feel you,everyone searches for a getaway sometime in their lives,dogs can't hurt you they're always there,but can you really be with a dog?it's sad,you're searching for love in the wrong place..now i won't tell you to see professional help,but you have to build your life again.go out have fun, new friends,just a new start..i know that sometimes dogs feel much better than humans,but the fact never changes they're dogs..
hope you take care..and try to follow my advice...and maybe find a woman that deserves your love:)take careXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2008): You and your dog are soulmates, your good friends and you love each other very much. Of course, you do that's fine.
But dog is dog (one species) and man is man (another species) you don't have to have sex with everything you love. You need human warmth and affection, your lonely and you have nobody else to love. Start mixing with people, men and women. Join voluntary groups and charities and offer to help out. There are millions of people who for various reasons are alone. Old people, disabled people, all these people need love and hugs. Get out into the world, your spending too much time with your dog and shuting human beings out.
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reader, Sweety Pie  +, writes (28 December 2008):
 Ok I love my dog to pieces, but so not in that way! They are best friends, nothing more! Try and get out a bit more, and meet some new people! Prehaps try talking to other dog walkers when out with your dog so you can meet someone with the same sort of interests as you. I understand how dogs are incredibly loyal and at times can seem like better friends than humans, but honestly do you realy expect to have to.. um, 'clean up' after your girlfriend. Not cool. And sorry to break it to you but I think if your dog had the choice of getting it on with another doberman or you... well my bets on the male dog. Follow her example and find someone your own species :D
Dont worry, it will all get clearer in time! Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2008): It's understandable to have loving feelings to a dog. Much more faithful than most women. However do not have sex with your dog. It can not have your babies and it may ruin a beautiful relationship.
Hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2008): Step away from the dog, you are too close to the dog.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (28 December 2008):
ok step away from the dog.
you need to basically build yourself a social life. you need to just get out and meet people. join a club or something, where you can meet people who have the same interests as you. you are only looking towards your dog as a soul mate, because you have no one else in your life to feel like that about.
Whatever you feel, do not do anything with your dog! that is very cruel and very wrong, not to mention illegal.
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