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writes: Ok, so Im 15 - 16 in a few months time - and Ive only ever had 1 boyfriend and never been kissed. All my friends have got boyfriends or have had them in the last year and all of them, with the exception of 1, have been kissed, so I feel really abnormal. In fact, most of the people in my year at school have been kissed. I would love a boyfriend and to be kissed but it just doesn't happen for me - I just dont get asked out because lads tend to think that Im ugly. The only one of my friends who hasn't been kissed and who lads tend to call 'ugly' got asked out last week and it looks like she'll have her first kiss soon, so Ill be the only one who hasn't. It really gets me down and I so badly want a boyfriend so Im not abnormal anymore!!!! Am I abnormal??What Can I Do??Thanks, Ebbii xx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): That would make it hard.
That must be very upsetting for you. Try not to let it get you down. Be proud to be different.
Try to ingnore these bully's comments, the more they see that it upsets you the more that they will say these things. If you act proudly for being different and at least pretend not to be upset at their comments then they will probably get bored and leave you alone... That's what happened with me anyway. I hope you're ok.
Good Luck, Emivia. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFirstly, thanks everyone for your replies!! Secondly, its hard not to worry about not being kissed at my school because nearly everyone else has been kissed. They tend to tease inexperienced people - thats what makes it so hard tbh :(
Thanks Again!!!
xx
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reader, atarisrocks  +, writes (7 June 2008):
 i didnt kiss a guy until i was 17 and my bf never had a kiss until he was 18 i was his first every thing and hopfully his only so dont worry everyone is differant
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): im 17 and never had a kiss, hug, girlfriend or anything so your not alone. all my mates seem to make it a big deal to go smooching in my face ans the best thing to do is just ignore it all...im hoping something will come up in my future just dont force it upon yourself i guess
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): I had my first kiss at 14, and it was nothing special, so stop worrying, you will get your first, and boy will it be special. let me know when you do........ it will be fantastic.
take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): I didn't kiss a boy till I was 16 and I had my first boyfriend a few months after that. You're not abnormal at all.
Just try not to let it get to you. I can tell you from experience that it won't matter in a few years. :)
Good Luck Hunny. Try not to get worried about it... I know it's hard right now, just try and be patient.
Emivia. x
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reader, :):):) +, writes (7 June 2008):
You should be proud of yourself! Nowadays there are so many girls who go and have unprotected sex and all sorts.The fact you havent kissed anyone, makes you a very respectable person.It may not feel like it now, but in another ten years you'll be able to look back and be proud of yourself.You're still only young so you dont need to worry about not being kissed for a good while yet.Dont change for anyone, be yourself and you will find your prince charming in time.xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): im 15, and ive never had a bf, never been kissed, hugged, touched. im the only one in my clique that hasnt done this. and for a while i badly wanted this, but then i started participating in school activities, and i still dont have a bf. by the way, im ugly as hell and couldnt give a shit. i have the biggest, ugliest nose in the world, but true beauty comes from within, and you wont be beautiful, until u feel that way. if u want to talk to me about stuff, my email adress id [i've removed an email address of this person. Emails shud be passed via PM's or not at all], i have been touched by ur question,and i think that we could become good friends becuz we r both facing the same exact problem.
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (6 June 2008):
 Having or not a kiss definitely does not qualify someone as abnormal. A lot of other stuff does!
My first kiss, in fact, was when I was 16 and I REALLY didn't like it lol. So, don't think this is the best thing to ever happen to someone. Kissing someone who really likes you and cares for you is worth waiting for.
If you feel ugly, everyone will look at you like that. Attitude makes up for a lot... believe me. I had quite a bit of boyfriends and I am currently happily married to a great guy, and girls who are far more beautiful have not only not gotten married (in their 30s) but have also put up with a lot of worthless boyfriends (just because they look good). Work on yourself, you'll feel happier and thus attract more boys... oh and the important part, you'll be happier too. Good luck!
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