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anonymous
writes:I feel pressured by my boyfriend to take my clothes off in front of him. I am shy and i lack self confidence. I have never gone naked if front of a man. I like to be partly covered when he is making love to me also...just my belly cause its not pretty. I try really hard to give him more and more in that area but if he makes a comment or complains about it i am right back to square one and i have to start all over again. He doesn't seem to understand that this is me and it is the way i am. As much as i love HIM i dont love ME with no clothes on. Sex is great we get on great, but this is a major issue even to a point where he wont touch me because of it. help! He says he loves me however i look but i am just not convinced he will feel the same way if i was to walk around in front of him with nothing on. Which is what he wants.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2008): hey this is normal but you have to start loving yourself. i once lost a guy cos i was so self conscious(i thought i looked too much like a guy cos i was so skinny) and rejected his compliments to the point where he stopped complimenting me. then i felt worse so i dumped him as i thought i was so horrible and ugly. years later i realise all of this was in my head and even though my ribs stick out and my hips are wide and boney, AND i had no bum at all at the time!! i am a woman and after such a long sad time of hating myself i read up womens issues and learned to embrace my assets! which i now love!men love the opposite of what they are, they love womens bodies, all shapes and sizes...boobs tummys and bums make them crazy!! if you cover yourself up, this tension passes onto them and takes from the whole shared experience. get yourself a makeover, or a spa/facial and do your hair nice to pep up your mood. buy some really feminine underwear, it doesnt have to be sleezy, just feminine... wear a sexi perfume and have a good body moisturiser so when you run your fingers over your skin you like how soft it feels (i am crazy for the baby oil as i have very dry skin on my back and hips)..pour a glass of red...light candles and look how hot you are now????cos you are getting in the mood and spoiling your body which works hard to look after you, and lets face it, takes a lot of critisism! if you are a woman which you are, then you are automatically GORGEOUS!!!believe me, no man would argue!!good luck!!
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reader, gottascrewlose86  +, writes (1 March 2008):
 Hey do not worry, your guy is going to love the way you look no matter what. I am the same way....very self consious about my body and a little embarassed to show it off. But when I finally got naked with him he loved the way I looked and it made me feel so much better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): Leonard J Douglas! Wow! I feel better already. I was just off to get the polyfilla out and get things smoothed out before my bloke comes home from work, why bother after what you have said.
No seriously, beauty comes from within and he will love you no matter what. My bloke says he is in love with my mind, buggar, i thought it was my gorgeous figure, haha, only joking.
Take care and enjoy each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): Ive just got to say what a fab post leonard j douglas that made me feel better and I felt great anyway ta mate xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, leonard j. Douglas  +, writes (29 February 2008):
When a man buys a car you can be sure that he see every single line of the car's body. Well and good, We don't want any scratchs on it when it's new. However a woman's body,for most of us men,isn't like a new car. We become sexually turned on ,and at the same time our vision becomes slightly turned off too. And your minds inner, body's turn-offs will take a back seat to a man's Love, Lust, and sex. The hint of mint, sexual nudity, can spice up your relationship. And what you don't want him to see,when it comes to your figure,Well, Ten to one that's not what he is even looking at. And the only thing on his mind will be Love,Lust,or Sex. Do relax and get to enjoy your relationship.
Love and hugs from the Oldman in the Philippines.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (29 February 2008):
 Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If he love you very much , he would be blind to your faults.
Men's eye only see your boobs and that will satisfy them.Their eyes are not like women's hawk eyes which can see every fine details.
If you have never tried, how do you know what he said is the truth?
This is my top article in my blog, I don't know why...LOL!
http://laura1318.wordpress.com/2007/11/08/women-undressing-infront-of-men/
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): you know honestly if he says he loves you the way you are he most likely really does! i have the same issue with my bf and for the longest time i would only do it in the dark. (which is a great way to start getting over the confidence issue cause its hard to see bumps and lumps and you start to get comfortable) but really after a few weeks i realized that he really does love me the way i am and vise versa hes not nearly perfect in fact hes alot worse off than me and if i can love his lumps its obvious that he can love mine. Make sure your comfortable but love yourself and hell love you even more! good luck. and try the in the dark thing really it works!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): HUN
That excersice link was flip ding plop so here is another ok
http://zenhabits.net/2007/04/how-to-make-exercise-a-daily-habit-with-a-may-challenge/
Take care love mandy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): Hi Hunny
I understand but your fella says he loves you and ive found that in my relationship I could have felt this way as im knocking on 46 and my fella is 24 so my body is going to look older than his does, But that is not an issue for him at all he said I have a wonderfull body, and thats after 5 pregnancys, 3 chidren and three cesareans, I have had to give up work because of a back problem but I still work out as much as I can without causing injury (apart from a ripped hamstring a few weeks back from doing the splits) by mistake to fast oh boy!
I use an ab cruncher for my stomach (AS ITS SAFER FOR MY BACK AND FEELS MORE COMFORTABLE) and do stretches and am practicing the nunchaku's at the moment it makes me feel great certain karate tecs as not all will help my back...And a whole bunch of self confidence and self esteem to go with that hunny, It all helps build amazing self confidence im sending you a link on self confidence
http://www.selfesteem4women.com/site/about_us.htm
And also a daily excersise plan to help as well im sure hunny if you feel better about yourself then you wont worry so much as you will not only notice a change in your outlook on life but with the 10 mins of excersise a day you will notice a difference over all after awhile and then feel so much better love
http://homepages.which.net/~ks.burrell/nassdb/xsize.htm
I do hope this helps hunny belive in you always TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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