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writes: hi... i feel really retarded and pathetic for coming to the internet for help but i honestly dont know what else to do.i guess i should start by saying im 19 and ive been "in love" with my best (guy) friend since my sophomore year of high school. we met freshman year and became really close. at the end of the year we both had to leave. i was transferring to another school and he was moving to a neighboring state (luckily my grandparents live in the same state he moved to so i often visited him over the holidays and such). we didnt take this shift in our lives very well and both became severely depressed. we would call each other every weekend and talk about it since we knew we were both going through the same thing. during this time period i fell in love with him- or possibly just a very strong like? i dont really know what love is so i cant really say. long story short: i wound up going out with another guy i met in high school. he had a lot of security issues so he forbade me talking to my best guy friend for the two years we ended up dating. dont ask why i complied. my excuse is temporary insanity. anyhow after we broke up i started talking to my best guy friend again. to this day i am still confused in regards to wether or not he has forgiven me for avoiding him for two years... but basically what happened was i told him that i really like him and that i always have and then he told me the same, but we didnt get together bc of distance, time and money but agreed that maybe some day in the future. the problem is he never seems to want to talk to me like he used to and hes changed a lot (though he will deny it) he is almost a different person and i dont even know if i like him anymore. hes become bitter and kind of an asshole even tho hes joking around 90% of the time. i honestly dont even know what to think or feel. all i want is to be close with him again and be best friends like before. he says he likes me but he doesnt really bother with me like before. i feel like if i address this with him he will shrug it off and just laugh at me bc thats the kind of person he is. he doesnt really take things seriously. im pretty sure ive utterly confused all of you by now so im just going to shut up. what should i do guys? :C and sorry this turned out to be extremely long.
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reader, Cute  +, writes (19 December 2009):
Just one question, in these two years that you ignored him, did he remain single??? I feel he's lost interest in you(that is if he had any). Try and focus on other aspects of life instead of running behind this one guy you're not even sure about. Its ok to be single for a while its not always necessary to have a boyfriend.
And never feel ashamed about asking for help(even on internet!)
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reader, RAINORFIRE  +, writes (19 December 2009):
 you should talk to him either he will forgive you and move on and want a relationship with you or he wont, you ignored him for two years its hard to get over that.He needs to grow up and realize people make mistakes he missed out on you before but if he has any feelings for you he has a second chance. It might be to late he could feel like your sloppy seconds and your just crawling back after a bad relation ship, your going to have to be completely honest and open with this guy to get him to trust you and allow himself to have feelings for you again
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