A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:My partner and i have had many breaks but feel he is hiding something from me, last yr we had a split for a few months and he went on fb (which he never does usually) someone told me that they had seen other females on his friends list and told me their names, it was people he knew from his past but he knows i dont get along with them, now we are together he has closed hes account and promised me he has not been up to no good, now this is only last yr im talking about not anything before then, what can i do to get the truth? the female im suspitious about is about is in her 20`s and she is pregnant (not sure if she has had the baby yet) it`s not my partners baby of course but she tried adding him on fb because i saw the invite but he said he wont add her, but im wondering if he ever had any kind of contact with her without me knowing when we`ve been on a break? the other female im not sure about but i feel that there is something i need to know.
View related questions:
a break Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2011): Thanks for replying. Yes we were on a break when i had my suspitions so i guess it`s not like he has cheated on me because i know 100% that he wouldn`t do that. he has never cheated on anybody, he is not that kind of guy, he is very loyal and honest. We are with each other perminantly because we have sorted things out and we also have children together and plan to get married so i guess i should be looking forward to that and i am so much, we both deeply love eachother and always want to be together. I cannot wait to be married. I know he is not intersted in other women just like am not intersted in other men. We both appreciate and respect eachother too much to be apart again.
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2011): The best way to find out is to ask your partner. If he said he wouldnt add her on FB and you have no proof that he did. Why do you have a feeling that things dont add up? Even if he did have some contact with her, will that change how you feel about him?
...............................
A
male
reader, CaringGuy +, writes (25 March 2011):
I also agree with Geegee. If you were on a break at the time, unless there were rules that said you couldn't meet other people, then he's not hiding anything and he's done nothing wrong. I think though, you need to address this relationship quite seriously. Two people in a normal, loving relationship are not continuously going on breaks, nor are they this untrustworthy. Perhaps you need to decide whether this relationship is actually offering you what you want, or whether you'd be better moving on and finding someone you're not always takig breaks from.
...............................
A
female
reader, katheriner +, writes (25 March 2011):
You dont trust him I dont trust my Partner if its not this it will prob be something else once the trust is gone i dont think you can get it back save yourself the misery i am still going through
...............................
A
female
reader, charliesdevil73  +, writes (25 March 2011):
 I agree with GeeGee, if you were on a break it shouldn't matter what he did unless there were specific ground rules determined beforehand. It's like past relationships, they don't matter anymore they are done and over with.
...............................
A
female
reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (25 March 2011):
 If you were on a break then what does it matter???? Unless you both promised not to see other people during the break, you shouldn't even be wasting your time worrying about it. He is with you now, right?
...............................
|
