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30-35,
*elly10
writes:hello everyone, well i have just found out my boyfriend has cheated on me (kissed another girl at a nightclub). I found this out because i went on his facebook account and the girl herself told me as she thought it was my boyfriend she was talking to!! ... he has been texting her after a night out bla bla.. he denies it still every time i ask him he gets mad and says if u don't believe me don't be with me, but i know he kissed her, but i love him so much i just cant let go or leave him, were going on holiday next month abroad, its at such a bad time , I'm torn apart,and I'm only young but he is my life even tho hes sly i cant help but run back to him. iv heard rumors hes cheated before but i just cant leave him. i don't know what to do... WHY wont he admit it to me when i have the evidence,WHY is he still lying? We have bin together a year and a half i really thought he loves me , he says he does,but why cheat?HELPP!!!I'm so confused everyone says leave him,but i cant i love him so much its making me mad:| i don't sleep or eat and I'm so down. but when I'm with him I'm happy but i keep thinking god you've cheated then it brings me down again !! he is really secretive with his mobile everytime i check it everythings deleted, i know there is no trust at all bt i jus cant leave i know everyone proberly thinks yes u can leave , but i lost all my friends becuase im with him al the time, hes the only person ihave and its stupid but after everything i still love him. but wht i dont understand is if he wnts to cheat on me WHY THE HELL STAY WITH ME? why does he want me in his life, why does he tell me he loves me, y does he buy me everything, y does he see me every day , y does he ring me all the time and text me !... im so confussed and its makeing me go mad , iv changed so bad within myself i have such low self esteem i never think im good enough for him and obviously im not i guess or he wudnt b cheating ! but he still deneys it and i dont know why. but he gets angry when i ask him and just doesnt want to talk about it !!! were goin on holiday and i just cant see why he wants to do all these things with me but then he cheats on me? im so trapped becuase i feel he has become my life and even though he brings me pain and heartache he can stil make me smile ! stupid i know :( !! i dont know what to do im so confussed i know everyone wil say leave him but i guess i need a little more advice then that becuase for some reason i cant leave him it makes me sick thinkin about a life without him.. but i guess it makes me sad having a life with him !! helpppp !!!!!yeh i know i should leave but i dont know why i cant , iv had boyfriends before him and if it had happened then i would of left before he could even finnish explaining why he did it .. but with my current boyfriend its just differnt , i think its actualy made me crazy in the head hes all i think about i really cant come to terms with it ???i guess when im around him he makes me happy but im always looking at him thinking you cheated on me why ???? i do everything for him i take him everywhere , i give him anything im always there when he needs me i sit at home and wait for his phone calls, hes the only person who has my mobile number , (accept parents), time after time i sit and wait for him to ring when he tells me hes goin to bed and sneeks out , i cry and i cry and i cry , and for what im 18 ? .. i know the right thing to do is leave but is it silly that i think im not ready to ? maybe, thats why i cant understand?.. when we go to clubs bla bla i get guys tht look at me but i jus duk my head i dont dare look at them becuase i dont wnt him to think im interested.. everythings about him, and i cant belive iv lowered myself this much,but i just cant see why he would hurt me and y he puts this act tht he dusnt care i give everything for him its like enything he wanted id give him id be there for him , i just dont know WHY i cant leave him?and walk away??why does he wanna be with me but cheat on me when he goes out?
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reader, waiting to exhale  +, writes (21 August 2009):
the best way to get over a man is to get under another one, if you get my drift. the way you became attached to him is by spending time with him, so when you meet someone else you like you will get attached n develop feelings for him. time heals all wounds and you too shall heal.who knows how long you will love him, but if he keeps treating you wrong you will soon get tired and move on believe that. there's nothing with you for loving him, don't feel stupid,don't change the way you are, just change the bad things in your life.believe it or not you will get over him while your with him, one day you will wake up and everything will be fine.take your time and heal yourself sista,and god will help you through it also, you're not alone. who knows maybe in the future you will smile about this peacefully with no regrets. Lastly I want you to keep your self esteem. Don't feel like the other girl is better, she's different. i'm sure you can think of another guy that you find attractive, whether it's a celebrity or some random guy, but you still like your boyfriend.In simple words, you are still beautiful! Don't forget that!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2009): My lovely sister,dont depend on anybody it is just God dat can give u happiness,The Bible says seek yee the kingdom of God first and other shssl be added unto u.jear up and try to 4get dat deceitful guy make up u mind and try 2find another things dat can make u happy like reading the scripture. it is well with u
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2009): kelly you are in such a bad place emotionally right now. please talk to a counsellor, you have alienated yourself from everyone and this is not good. i will not tell yuo to leave him, because i will be wasting my time with that recommendation. but i will tell you to start focuing on yourslef, your needs, your emotional state and your well being please. one day i hope you have the strength to move on, away from him and the power you have given him over your life. you are so young. this is not love, it is unhealthy obsessive clingy behaviour. please try to make friends and try to get out more often. even without him. your life is so precious and you are wasting this precious life of yours.
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reader, xo.diamond.ox  +, writes (30 June 2009):
 I dont belive ur still with him!!!!!!!!! as if!!! i would dump that jerk and move on! u said u cant walk away plenty of times but u have to. why on earth wud u stay with him?! u can do better, or maybe hes just getting bored of u. no offence. How many things do u do with him that pleases him or thats fun?? u seriously need to show him ur in charge and take controle ur a great independint woman and u can do SO MUCH BETTER!!!!!!!!!!!!! GET RID OF HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! show him how much it hurts! give him some of his own medicine. tell me wat please y are u with him if he brings u down like this. i wud never with capital N never stay with a guy like him. Especially HIm. I'v been inlove before and i know how hard its it is to get over a guy and just walk away but i did it and i belive in you that u can to. Im inlove right as a matter of fact. And i dont know if he likes me but i hope he does.... anyways just have faith in urself and belive in urself and be brave because any woman can do it. Just get over him or cheat on him..show him wat it feels like. BREAK HIS HEART LIKE HE BROKE URS. i know you can do it u just need a little courage thats all. if u wait to long he might dump u so u need to act fast and if u dont want to get dumped then u dump him if u want to get dumped and have a broken heart all ur life then stay with him. pple r going to start looking at u like "y is she with that player" ur too good 4 him anyways u just need to have faith in yourself xoxox... yours truley, xo.diamond.ox
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