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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for ten months now on and off, i do love him but i think he is taking advantage of me, he works and i go to school, i do not ask him for money but he does, where does his money go? well from what i know he less than half of it goes to his car and the rest he spends on clothing helping out his friends and paying back people he owed, (he is a chronic borrower) so when he runs out he asks me and stupid me helps him out! i ask him what he needs the money for he sas for gas, stuff for his car and other stuff, i am just getting so tired of him! he never takes me out for dinner or even bought me a gift he is always telling me that it is coming, but the question is when? what do you guys think i should do with him?
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reader, Sarah2485  +, writes (21 January 2010):
 he works and you go to school... if anything you should be the one needing help with money... you need to stop bailing him out i had an ex that used me like this.. i gave him lifts everywhere paid for a lot of things we did together and he borrowed money... he turned out to be an idiot and a looser.. i would not give this guy any more of your money see if that is all he is using you for... x
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reader, Miss King ! +, writes (21 January 2010):
 Hmm this is tricky, I think the fact that he works is the biggest problem, he clearly has enough money to run a car and to take his girlfriend out, I mean some men have to support their entire family of one or two kids, cars, pets, bills etc. if he doesnt have these responsibilities yet then you need to ask him the straight question of WHERE IS YOUR MONEY. there are many things that he could be hiding like gambling, drugs, etc etc. of course dont accuse him of this, but it is definitely something you need to know about. on the other hand he could just be very wasteful with money and over indulgent on himself... which aren't desirable traits in a boyfriend! If you love him enough to help him, then ask the questions and help him get on top of his finances. If you dont feel its worth your time and effort- leave him. If 10 months hasnt resulted in one dinner or one gift when you give him all of that money, maybe he's not worth it!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 January 2010):
You're paying for him? Well I admire your loyalty to this guy. You're a great girl. But save your love for a guy who actually is worthy of your time. This one is just using you. Measure a man by his actions, not his words. Be brave and move on. There is a better guy out there.
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