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writes:It has been almost three months now since my ex and I parted ways from our one year relationship. Our break-up was not easy on either of us, but I felt that there was no resentment or hard feelings towards one another. We stayed in contact regularly even though it was me that would have to initiate it. We even hung out a few times after and occasionally broke the cardinal rule of sex with the ex. She started dating another guy only two weeks after our split which I was unaware about and seemed to be moving one with no problem. Even though I still wanted her back I played it cool in hopes that it was just a supposive "rebound relationship". But they are still together today and my fears of losing her forever are coming true. Even though we may text every once in a while she still says she cannot see me just yet for she still has feelings for me. I agreed for I am trying to make her as comfortable with me as possible. But now she found out through a mutual friend that I am seeing someone and has severed all contact with me. It has been over two weeks and my mind is going crazy. Even though this new girl is nice, its my ex I still obsess about and it seems to be getting worse. I guess my question is do I just leave her alone and let her live her life or do I try and pursue the woman I deeply love and at least try to stay in her life somehow. Because something tells me in my heart that she still loves me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2010): 3 months isnt very long to recover from a break up, even an amicable one. But think about it. She started dating 2 weeks after you split up. And didnt tell you, tho she was still seeing you on and off. You had to initiate all the contact. And now you have someone yourself, your ex doesnt want to know you anymore. It sounds as if you were slightly more in love than she was. If you had both been on the same page you would still be together.
My advice would be to stop seeing the `nice` girl as she stands to get hurt while you are still in love with your ex. Give yourself a little time so you can move away from how you feel now, before you start dating again. I think your ex was doing some damage limitation by saying she couldnt see you because she still has feelings for you. Shes happy where she is but didnt want to upset you. She was probably seeing you at times while she was already with her new partner and she wont want that getting out! I think she said about having feelings just to keep you sweet but now you have someone she can disappear without any drama.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 January 2010):
Let this girl go. She has been playing you far too much. She has kept you in contact, kept telling you she likes you while seeing other guys, then severed contact because you're seeing another girl. She's not worth another moment of your time.
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