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writes:HelloI'm in a long distance relationship and have been for the last year and 3 months. It has always been long distance. At the beginning it was the most wonderful thing I've ever experienced.I cannot fault my boyfriend at all and he is a wonderful man.I moved to a different country 4 months ago and have been wondering on and off if i still love him.I've not been happy in this place, and will soon be able to spend 2 weeks with my boyfriend. I almost feel too tired and emotionally drained from this whole being abroad trip to feel happy.Please offer me something, some kind of advice.I love him, and I can see how he may change over the years as he gets older and I'd like to be there to see it, but I just feel so emotionally drained that I don't know if I love him any more. He and I can talk about anything, and I've mentioned the occasional thing, and he's agreed that he's ready for me to move in too!I just feel muddled and emotionally empty!
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reader, jalmetha  +, writes (9 June 2009):
 Is their a uni you can go to in the country he is in? If there is, why didn't you go their to begin with? If not, are you willing to give up your furture career for this man? Are you willing to move back?
You need to ask these questions and really ponder on the ansers. I think maybe you should go back and see if what you left is still there. You could be axious becuase it has been so long, but it could be that you are holding on to a memory rather than an acutal feeling.
I hope you find your answers dear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for taking the time to reply.
I moved because I had to go to Uni in this other country. We've been long distance since the day we met as it happens!
We've talked about our lives together and so it's not that he just wants me to pay rent. As it happens, he'd have to take care of that for a bit til I found a job, and he said he's looking forward to being the one to provide for a bit!
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reader, jalmetha +, writes (5 June 2009):
Why did you leave in the first place? Has the reason changed for the move? He said that he is ready for the two of you to move in together, but if you are in another country you need more of a commitment than splitting half the rent. You feel drained becasue you are holding on to a relationship stuck in limbo. Think, if you were not still intrested in him, would it be that horrible there?If the two of you have no intentions a serious commitment that would result in one of you moving to the other's country, you should break up. An offical split will allow you to move on.
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