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writes:Dear cupid,I am contemplating moving in with my boyfriend.We have been together for only two years.I've posted before about horrible flat mates my boyfriend is living with, which is the reason i am considering to move in with him alone. I don't want to move in with him just because of that reason. I don't feel we have matured enough to take that large step. i'm still to family orientated at the moment and i want to be around them, although i want my own space as they still treat me as a child. That is probably partially the problem also. I still feel i'm a child although i am 20, nearing 21. I have lead a sheltered life and i don't feel i know enough about the world to make it on my own yet. My boyfriend still does a lot of small things that irritate me alot and he sometimes goes out his way to actually annoy me when he is bored. This frustrates me and i end up just wanting away to my own home. If i move in with him, then i have no where to escape to.He feels that all of the problems we have is because i have to go home. He says he would be less frustrated about time if we had all of it and i didn't have a deadline. He says he would be less annoying because we would have the whole house to move around in and i can go to another room if he annoys me. I don't know i don't quite trust it. I love him very much but i dont think our relationship is THAT strong to survive that sort of test yet.I considered a two bedroom might be a better answer so that it could be a sort of inbetween thing and we would each have our own space. But they cost ALOT of money and he would be struggling to pay for a one bedroom to start with. I've just heard alot of horror stories recently that my friend was with his girlfriend for 5 years then got a flat together and then they couldn't handle it and they fought alot and broke up. What should i do? My parents wouldn't be happy if i moved out either. He doesn't want to live with anyone else and can't really afford it himself.What options do i have?
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