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writes:My boyfriend who is 2 years older than me is leaving school and either going to collage. He says that things between us wont change but i no it will. I am madly in love with him but he doesnt understand as he keeps on thinking i flirt/or change in frount of other guys. He speaks to me different now and now he is leaving he is not speaking to me as much and he him self has changed. What should i do about this but i am scared that things will never go back to normall and the only thing that is keeping us together is sex. Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI really love him though. I dont know what to do!! he says he loves me too!!
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reader, rorowes  +, writes (19 May 2008):
 Sex always complicates a relationship no matter how old you are. At this point in your life, you can't be consumed in what he's going to do when he goes to college. He'll do it anyway. The real question is, are you willing to let him go and do whatever while he's away, and concetrate on graduating from school yourself and going to college. Don't get to serious to fast, and young. There is so much more to see as you get older. You'll find that out. BTW, your fears aren't that uncommon, and for a reason.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2008): Why do you change when in front of other guys? Do you?
I've noticed this in girls I've dated. It sends a subliminal message that your keeping you options open, and he sees this. Partially, he sounds wounded, and probably is looking forward to the seperation between you two. Sounds like it is over, and he sees this as he is leaving gracefully.
Relationships are tough. Men are hesitent to say things, because they fear there girl will clam up. But women don't seem to caring in how they present there own to their guy, not thinking if it will hurt, and sometimes not caring, because they feel there feelings are more important to be addressed.
Just a few thought for chewing on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2008): Your bloke is doing the classic thing of cooling it before he goes, therefore i would walk away and meet someone else. Sorry to sound so brutal, but if it is meant to be it will survive, if not then move on. He has already decided by what you say, so you can either go along with it or have a chat with him and explain that you are not going to go off with someone else. If this is not enough then move on.
take care
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reader, LittleMissInfo +, writes (19 May 2008):
 Hiya,
You say that your boyfriend is leaving school and you are two years younger, that suggests that you are only 14, and really sex shouldnt even be a part of your relationship yet. But as it has, really their is no way to be 100% certain as to whether it is just sex keeping you together.
Why don't you try NOT having sex with him for a while, and see if he treats you any different?
If he does, i personally think you can do better. you are young, and although you say you love him, you will feel this way again about someone else along the line.
Dont let this weigh you down too much.
plenty more fish in the sea.
LittleMissInfo
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reader, amamom +, writes (19 May 2008):
Let this guy go- keep yourself from having the agony of the questions lingering over your head. he will leave you in the near future anyway. at least give yourself the satisfaction of knowing you were the smarter of the two and mature enough to end it before he hurt you worse and humiliated you.
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