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writes:I don't know whats happening to me at the moment. I haven't written on here for ages, and now it seems that evrything that I've built up over the last few months is falling to pieces.With my parents nothing ever feels good enough for them, and they never stop having a go. On thursday, they really embarrassed me infront of one of my teachers, and they didn't even apologise when I explained this to them.One of my best friends has started being nasty to me, and it feels like the entire world is against me. I saw a doctor about 7 weeks ago, and they've organised me some cognitive behavoural therapy, but I'm worried that it isn't going to work.My dad has OCD, and he's having a hard time of it lately. My parents are arguing loads, and they never have time to talk, not that I can talk to them anyway. I'm always bottom of the list as far as their concerned. Last weekend I was up until 10.30 finishing some GCSE coursework, and although they said that they would drop it, they didn't. They keep on having a go. It's really pushing me to breaking point. I'm starting to feel like I'm slipping back into my old ways, and I'm really worried that I will relapse. I feel so restless and don't know what to do with myself. I keep losing my temper, because they either ignore me, or have a go, or continuously ask pointless questions. They never stop. I'm starting to feel like the whole world is against me, and I don't know what to do. What's the best solution to my problems?
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (8 November 2009):
 I can really sympathise with you, I'm in 5th year (in Ireland 5th and 6th year we study for our version of the A levels and we do two-thirds of the work in 5th year) so I have loads of work and I come from a very intellectual family and so am under constant pressure to do well. Futhermore my mother is a very impatient women and shouts at me for the tiniest of things and I constantly get verbal abuse, she ALWAYS embarrasses me and I don't mean for silly reasons that many teenagers find embarrassing.I advise that 1) if you want to study, before school make a lunch to eat for after school or bring in money to buy something (healthy). Go to the library and stay there as long as possible.2) Does your friend know that she is being nasty? LOADS of young people are horrible to each other and truly believe it's all a joke even if the reciever is sinking into depression. If you have actually fallen out then ignore her. If you run out of friends at school join a group or club (believe me, I went through a year where I lost my friends, joined a group and ended up with a better social life than ever before)3)When your parents are calm and not going insane at you, sit them down, or even just the one your closest to, explain very carefully how you feel and try to make them see your point of view, not just about the problems you have with them but problems you face at school and with your friends. It's better they have the full picture to really get how you feel.When you get angry go for a walk, burn off some energy, I find that speed walking often helpsyour cbt therapist will be interested in the whole family dynamic and might ask you if he/she can ask your parents in to have a talk with all of you to see what solutions you can all arrive at to reduce the stress you are feeling.good luckxx
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