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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years.. He was always so into me and wanted to do alot of sexual activities.. but now he never asks to have sex with me!! .. not only sex but anything sexual.. I'm so attracted to him that i want him ALL the time. And when i ask him he would almost always say "not right now" or "later" but we don't end up doing it.. When we do have sex i feel like he just does it just to shut me up.. i feel like its a chore to him. Is there any way to change this? or anyway to lower my sex drive?
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reader, michelleAKAmandi  +, writes (2 October 2008):
 Hey there...
Give him the chance to initiate sex. Since he's been getting it more than often, he's lost some interest. It will change over a little period of you not initiating sex and leaving him be. You don't have to lowers your sex drive, neither should you. Please yourself with thoughts and visuals of him and give him a break. It may seem hard to do, as I found myself in your same situation, but you can do it and I promise it should pay off. Only thing that may come up is, he may ask, What's wrong? Do you not want me anymore? Is there someone else? This will be normal of course because he's so use to you wanting it all the time. So merely explain you are going to lay off a bit so you don't drive him so crazy.
When you do this and if it brings him to initiate the sex, don't jump right back into asking him for sex, let him be the one to do it for a good while and things will even out as long as you don't end up being overbearing again. I know it sucks, but it's better than going without sex for a long period of time.
Good luck sweetie
Hope you will try this and that it works for you.
Michelle
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