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writes: Anyone who reads this, I would love some feedback. My fiance and I have been togeather four years,and he is always turning me down for sex when I ask for it; saying he's tired. It's not just some of the time, it's all the time. This makes me feel so rejected, like I'm the most unattractive person in the world; like there's something wrong w/ me. I've repeatedly talked to him about this and nothing has changed, he continues to tell me he loves me, and he desires me; but, I can't help but feel rejected. I'm sure that he is faithful, he's never given me any reason to mistrust him. Help Please!
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reader, addavis8 +, writes (30 May 2006):
 This certainly isnt normal, I doubt your fiancee enjoys his sudden abstinence and I am sure its hard on you. But before you go looking for external reasons why he might be too "tired" for sex, look at him a little more carefully.It is very possible that he just isnt feeling like his usual sexy self. Guys definitely need assurance that they they are satisfying their partners, especially when its a serious relationship. Being tired could just be an excuse he knows avoids an intimate situation he is, as of late, uncomfortable in. I know that problems like a bad diet, added stress, or feeling regimented lower my sex drive because I dont feel as masculine or sexy as I usually do. Just some extra compliments about his physique, charm, or "sexy" could set the mood.Being tired could also be attributed to a lack of spontaneity in your sex life or perhaps he could be "tired" of the same old scene, Im not intending to be offensive but he might be disgruntled because its lost passion, or he doesnt feel satisfactory when your having sex. Perhaps you've noticed that. If you havent tried this yet, add a little spark, some romance or adventure to your sex lives with something risky or new, that might be all it takes. Hope you sort this out, and have fun doing it
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2006): hiya 1st of all dont panic this IS normal. sometimes when you have been together for a while this happend your partner is fed up being asked and you constantly feel rejected (I KNOW BEEN THERE)BUT ITS NOT ALL BAD!!!! My advice is to look into yourself andrealise how great and sexy a woman you are. then build on that. Chat about your past sex life in a casual and funny way so you both relax a bit and then throw in someideas and a couple of coments if a proper formal chat puts him off but don`tworry if he stilldoesnt respon tothis keep trying if you love him and he lovesyou it will come good for you`s and if not i would then be very susicious about it !!! and seeking a confession or therapy orboth might be needed all the best .Bindyxxx.
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reader, bonym  +, writes (7 May 2006):
 My friend, I find it odd that your partner is persistently rejecting you for intimacy, that is not right. Something is wrong, you cant ALWAYS be tired and if so, there are times when you will put tiredness aside and be affectionate or intimate with one another. You need to sit down and have a chat with him and ask him why he is behaving like this, it isnt fair to you and its not normal. xXx
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reader, Danielle934 +, writes (5 May 2006):
 Hmmm... you need to ask him if he is happy with your sex life, ask him if he would like to have it more. If so then you need to both do something about it. Me and my husband make time for it and go to bed a little early, so that we can still both get plenty of sleep. If he doesn't make and attempt to try to help this, then you may want look into how often he masterbates... the problem just might be that he has allready pleased himself.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (5 May 2006):
 Well for starters I certainly wouldn't marry the guy until this gets straightened out. You have major problems here. Of course you feel rejected, anyone would. He needs to be checked out by a doctor to make sure his low sex drive isn't due to any physical problems. Once that factor is corrected, or eliminated, you guys will have to have a true heart to heart chat about this. But whatever you do, DO NOT MARRY THE GUY until you get this settled to you satisfaction.
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reader, Angel ron +, writes (5 May 2006):
 well may be he is try and find a right time to a sex a time when he is not tired
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