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writes:I feel like I've been stabbed in the heart.My best friend has told me he started dating another girl last night - I'm devastated. i really love him and have never told him because for the past 7 months I've been supporting him over his wife leaving him and he's been very fragile and now this.He's told me I'm a very close friend to him and he doesn't want anything to change. I'm in tears writing this because I'm gutted! What shall I do?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (15 February 2010):
You need to back away. This other girl could be a rebound. I know it's hard for you to get over him, but that really is something you need to work on. He has made his choice, and now you must pull away for your own sake.
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reader, Caring Stranger +, writes (15 February 2010):
 hi there,
i know what it feels like to be in love with your best friend and have to watch them be with someone else. its the hardest thing in the world.
however, it does sound to me that this guy just wants to keep you in his life as a best friend and nothing more.
You say that he has said he doesnt want anything to change between the two of you. I think as his friend you have to respect this. I do think though that if this is getting you down as much as it sounds then you need to talk to him....you need to let him know that you care for him in this way. then it gives him the opportunity to tell you exactly what he wants from the two of you and give you the closure you need to move on. you have supported him and im convinced that if you are as good friends as you say that he will support you in every way.
you also need to think that if anything happened between the two of you and it went wrong then you risk losing your friendship...that happened to me and i regret it every day.
good luck honey, we are all here if you need to talk some more xx
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