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writes:I knew my current girlfriend in the beginning of this year, in February. She lives in the the countryside, in a city that i used to live and it's where my mum lives as well. So I go there almost every weekend or fortnightly.. after almost three months going out together, i asked her to date with me.. she accepted and it was wonderful, i was extremely happy. It seemed that she was very happy too and we were falling in love together. Despite the distance, it seemed that we were the happiest couple in the World!!The problems started a week ago, when I was in her city. I asked her for going out Friday night, and she told me that her parents didn't allow her. Saturday afternoon she refused to meet me again and we had an argument.. i told her that she was different with me, colder and emotionally detached. She answered me that she didn't know which were her feelings about me and she was needing a time to think. I said "Ok", and started crying hardly, because I love her and I want to stay with her!! After some hours, she send me a message saying that she would like to meet me in a couple of minutes. We met and she was very cold, even denied me a kiss.. she just gave me a gift for my birthday that was coming and cried hardly too. Next day, Sunday, she went to my mum's home and we kissed a little.. she cried again and I cried hardly in front of her as well. I told her about my feelings and she said the same thing: she was confused and must think about us. Monday morning I came back home. We just talked by online Messenger.. I sent some messages to her mobile, but she didn't answer me. My birthday was Wednesday and she sent me a lovely email.. but didn't call me. Today, I called her telling that I missed her and I want very much to meet her.. she was extremely cold.. saying that she was thinking yet. I love her so much and I can't believe it's over.. I want to stay with her! I fallen so much for her and I don't want to lose her.. I'm very withdrawn these days and suffering very much.. Next week it's holidays and i'm going to her city.. and I don't know what to do. Can you help me, please? Reply to this Question
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reader, jay-man  +, writes (29 May 2010):
 sorry to hear about your troubles man, iv dealt with something similar and it sucks majorly.
as to your question, its very simple what u should do next week. dont contact her at all. if a she wants to talk to u she will call or text or something. dont annoy her by contacting unless she ask u to. no matter how bad u want to talk to her.
and it still isnt over yet man. women change their minds all the time. trust me. i understand ur pain and i knw how to deal with it
1: STOP contacting her, every time you do ur just guna face more pain.
2: find something to do to keep your mind off of her
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (29 May 2010):
 I am sorry and my sympathies for your troubles. You need to take a break and calm down . A time away from her so that both of you will give plenty of thoughts to the relationship.
You should not force yourself on her as this will make her run further away from you .
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (29 May 2010):
 Sorry to hear this is so very upsetting for you.
You are what, 16 or 17? If she is the same age, you must know that girls around her age (and boys similarly) often change their minds about people they once were keen on. That's just the way life is, sometimes.
Anyway, you have tried hard to let her know she's important to you and you miss her and want to be with her. If she chooses not to respond there is really nothing more you can do - painful as it is to come to terms with that knowledge. You can't make someone be with you if they don't wish it.
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