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writes:Four years ago I was engaged to be married to a woman who I thought loved me. A month before our wedding, she broke off our relationship, and cleaned me out, she stole money from me, took all my furniture and appliances, pretty much everything that wasn't nailed down. She left me owing large sums of money for her car, which I co-signed, and her school loan not to mention all the furniture and appliances which I was still paying on. I guess she was only using me but I loved her so much I tried for two years to get her back. Then two years after the break up, I met a wonderful woman and we started seeing each other. Six months into our relationship, she insisted that I stop contacting my "ex". She asked me to not to email her anymore, not to call her and asked me to remove all her pictures from my computer. My new girlfriend said it was time for me to let go, and "move on" but I thought I already had. I know there's no chance of a reconciliation, my ex claims she is now re-married and has a baby on the way with her new husband. I have been with my new girlfriend now for 2 years, and I think I really love her, but I also feel like it might be "too soon" for me to love again. What should I do?
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (28 May 2007):
 You were very much in love with your ex weren't you? I can feel your pain and the thought of getting rid of her pictures probably terrifies you as you know that would finally put closure on all you had together. Keep in your heart the good times you shared but also remember what she did to you. She took advantage of your good nature and the fact you loved her and cleaned you out. People can be so cruel and so cold hearted sometimes and it hurts but it's a fact of life.
This is just my opinion but from reading your letter I would say you don't love your current girlfriend. If you did you would know it without having to question whether or not you love her. You enjoy her companionship though and no doubt you're very fond of her and in time your feelings for her could deepen. You ask what should you do? If you enjoy her company then there is no reason why you shouldn't continue seeing her. I would get rid of anything that reminds you of your ex though, if you don't then you'll never be able to truly move forward.
Enjoy your life with this new woman, let her see that your ex IS your ex now and that you have no wish to have anything else to do with her which means getting rid of her pictures and anything else you have of her from your past. Just remember, she USED YOU and you deserve so much better.
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reader, candy00s +, writes (26 May 2007):
 i agree with your girlfriend that you should cut all ties with your ex.
to do what she did to you shows she is cruel and greedy.
you sound like you love your new girlfriend, your ex probably destroyed your trust. Take things slow, forget about your ex (she used you), focus on what you have with your gf.
also did you consider reporting this to the police? she did steal from you.?
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