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36-40,
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writes:Hello. I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 24. We've lived at his MOMs house for 3years. This guy hugs me everyday, at least 20times a day..so it seems. It annoys me cause we live together and I see him when I get home from work and on my off days. This guy likes to be around me alll the time! He asks me when my off days are so we can be together. He just a good job. Hes never really helped me pay any of my bills (its his fault I have bills). He hasn't given me a cent even though he says he will. Hes always asking who I'm on the phone talking to, who I'm texting, who left me voice mail, which friends am I going to hang out with. He said going out is bad and is not okay. He has no degree in anything..neither do I, but I'm thinking about moving back home and be put through college and make something of myself. Within the past 3 years of living with him, I have accomplished nothing. I feel like I'm wasting away. I feel like I'm the one wearing the pants, not him. He doesn't really like me hanging out away from him. I havn't seen my friends in awhile, just cuz I don't want to have to ask. I almost have to ask for permission..and he wants to know what time I will be back..blah blah blah
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2008): You are 21! Way too young to let yourself be tied down so. Go live your life, date around, get an education, explore career options, travel, have fun and adventure. That's what youth is for, not being tied down, bitter, and feeling unfulfilled. Live your life - and have no regrets later, thinking about all the things you could've, would've, should've done if only you hadn't handed your life over to a guy.
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reader, saltwater  +, writes (16 July 2008):
 This guy is clearly smothering you.
If he is keeping tracks on you i.e. asking where you are, what you're doing etc then he shouldn't be. Of course you should be able to go with friends or whoever and not have to feel like you have to ask permission.
"This guy likes to be around me alll the time!" Well, isn't that the point of going out together :-)
If you want to go College then do so! Don't let him stop you.
Interesting that you didn't once mention in your post that you love him...
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