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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend doesnt trust me at all. He recieved a weird message last night with two people moaning and it sounded like they were having sex. We had a fight that night, so he thought it was me, getting back at him. Of course it wasnt me. I do love him. But how can i be in a relationship where my boyfriend doesnt trust me. Because then it brings up other problems. Like i cant go out with friends, because he thinks im not going to be with just girls, but guys who i will cheat on him with. Honestly i have never cheated on him and never will, i have never cheated on anyone who i have had a relationship with. I have also never said 'i love you' to anyone before him. and yet he acts like i dont know what it means. I feel as though i do. And other times he acts as though he doesnt truely care for me. Even though he said he does. But i just dont know how to deal with these type of moods he gets into. Like he doesnt make time for me anynmore, he has work and school. and i understand he needs to do those things, but when he has free time, he rather go to the movies with his friends instead of hangingout with me. He always sees his friends more than i see him. Sometimes i think i should just forget about him. I sometimes feel as though i deserve better.Like one of my old boyfriends used to bring me flowers all the time and yet i only dated him for about a month. And the guy im dating no, has never bought me flowers or anything for Valetines day, or my birthday. Like those type of things, show he doesnt care. Right? I dont know what to do? Im sorry for the lengthy message, with the info that i gave, it would help to know what you guys think. If you need more info just ask. But, should i forget him, even though i love him.? Or should i somehow try to prove to him that he can trust me? i already said 'if you love me then you would trust me', he said 'yea thats true'. Then why does he still doubt me? I really do need your help.Thanks x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2008): I know exactly where your coming from because im going through the same thing. My boyfriend feels as if im always going behind his back and flirting with other guys when im really not. And now hes leaving and doesnt want to have anything to do with me because he cant trust me. Its almost the worst thing to be going through but i do want to let you know that if you're deeply in love with him and he loves you as well, then you should keep trying to comfort him and be there. Talk to him more on the phone and hang out with him the most so he can see that you would rather be there with him and that your serious with him. If it doesnt get any better..then [even thought i hate saying this] you should just give it some space. Slowly back away and give him time to himself. You're probably going to be thinking that hes totally going to be over you but he really wont. After he gets himself together then he might come back and if he doesnt then slowly approach him as a reminder that you're still around and if that doesnt do then just let it go. Theres 6 billion other people out in this world that could make you feel the same way and even better. Its hard but try to have as much fun as possible to keep it away from your mind. I do hope everything works out for you!!
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