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*azziBadAzz
writes:I don't know what to do. I have two men that want to be with me. One of them is more focused on being with me we have a wonderful friendship but I do not want to be with him. The other man however doent want a commitment right now but we have casual sex and we are very close. I don't know whether or not to keep both of them around until i can figure out who i want to be with or let the one i really dont want to be with go. they both mean alot to me but im deeply emotionally involved with both of them. They both are a part of my daily routine meaning i am used to commincating and seeing them on a regular basis. I feel like im obligated to both of them. What am I suuposed to do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Keria  +, writes (25 April 2007):
I just want to concur with cd206. You are obligated only to yourself. Good answer.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (25 April 2007):
 The only person you're obligated to is yourself. You know deep down that neither of these guys are right for you so you owe it to yourself to find someone who is. Tell both these guys that you want to be friends and nothing more and set about making yourself happy and not worrying about their happiness. While other people can make us happy, ultimately our own happiness is our own responsibility.
CD
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2007): From the sounds of it you don't really want to be with either of them but you do want them both in your life... You've got to admit this to yourself first of all, then approach both of them and explain that you do want them in your life but only as friends. If either of them truly values your friendship they will be happy with this and if the are not then they are not the friends that you think they are.
I wish you luck.
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