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writes:May i please have some advise? I haven't had much time to spend with this girl I am dating. And I feel real bad because I am always busy. I feel like it isn't fair to her. She really likes me. And I really like her. but our free time doesn't seem to meet up with each other. I like her a whole bunch. So anyone who has had the same, or similar issue.... I would think it would be real helpful to get both prospectives from both man and women. Sorry for the bad spelling and grammar. I am on my phone. so I will assume my message will get arose to someone.Hopefully. Reply to this Question
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reader, ScaredForLove +, writes (5 November 2011):
I agree with Kc. And if you do have plans with family/ friends sometimes why not ask if she wants to come along? I always feel good when my boyfriend wants me to come to parties with his family and stuff. ::) If your not comfortable with that, then just try planning ahead :)
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (4 November 2011):
 Well what are you busy doing? And what is she busy doing? Generally you cant be busy 7 nights a week, even if you work during the day you still have your evenings and if you plan your workload well you can get all your work done before you go out in the evening so you dont have to stay late.
And what about weekends? I know often weekends get filled up with plans with friends and family, but what I suggest if you both are busy is to plan ahead - find an evening on one weekend where you havent got plans, and plan something with her. Yes it might not be for 2 or 3 weeks, but once you start regularly planning ahead eventually you factor each other into your lives more.
It is hard to transition from a single person's life to life with another person, and it can take a few weeks. The best thing you can do is start to make plans together for a few weeks in advance, and then that way your friends/family see that you are becoming less available to them so they dont demand so much of your time, hence they stop inviting you to so many things and more of your time is freed up for the girl you are dating.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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